A certain type of people is characterized by expansiveness: an inability to control emotions. It is impossible, and not necessary, to completely eliminate emotional outbursts from life: rigid people suffer no less than excitable ones. The best thing a person can do for himself is to minimize and control the manifestation of unnecessary emotions.
Instructions
Step 1
Avoid psychotechnics and self-control techniques. There are many techniques for learning to control yourself - from self-hypnosis to breathing exercises. But expansiveness is not a disease - it is a symptom, and it does not need to be eliminated or suppressed, as this can lead to an aggravation of the situation. To learn to restrain yourself, correct your relationship with society and eliminate personal conflicts.
Step 2
Get the support of a psychologist and attend appropriate training. Deal with the causes of excessive excitability. Eliminate external and internal problems, then expansiveness will disappear on its own, and control over feelings will become an achievable task.
Step 3
Adjust your relationship with the community. The uncontrollability of feelings is characteristic of people who, considering themselves exceptional, covertly or openly enter into conflict with society. Cultivate a desire to coexist with the people around you. Show interest in public life, and then the conflict will be resolved by itself.
Step 4
Stop fighting with society, accept its rules. If you are unable to solve this problem, contact a specialist. When motivation appears, the ability to behave within the framework of social norms of behavior, to control both positive and negative emotions, will come.
Step 5
Solve internal problems. An inferiority or superiority complex, stress and other intrapersonal conflicts can be accompanied by expansiveness. If you belong to a number of emotionally unbalanced people, do not spend unnecessarily psychotechnics or self-control installations - without solving the main problem, this is a waste of time.
Step 6
Using the method of self-education or with the help of a specialist, eliminate psychological dissonance. The most important point in working on yourself is finding the cause of expansive behavior. Make it a goal in itself to eliminate psychological disharmony. Revision of self-esteem and life position will allow you to look at your inclinations from a different angle and correct your behavior. This will have an extremely positive effect on the quality of life.
