Sometimes situations arise that cause surprise and even some offense. And all because the sensation does not leave - a lot would be different, it was only necessary to act differently. Thus, life teaches people lessons. And if such signs were understood without difficulty, then human existence would become much easier.
Instructions
Step 1
Take the time to consider your own life. And do not just restore the chronology of events, but carefully, thoughtfully, flip through the past, like a book. Think about the reasons why these or those situations were folded exactly this way and not otherwise. For example, a loved one dumped you. The root cause seems obvious - the feelings are simply gone. But it is possible that the essence of the problem lies elsewhere. After all, sometimes trifles lead to parting, which gradually accumulate and break out. You could behave too independently and independently, which made your soul mate feel unnecessary. Or they were too jealous, and he (she) could not stand such suspicion. Perhaps there were regular scandals over trifles, but no one wanted to compromise. In general, there are infinitely many reasons. But the weird thing is that after experiencing this trauma, you can start dating again and come to the same end - the breakup. Why? But because they did not learn the lesson that was taught to you earlier, and did not draw the correct conclusions from what happened. By seeing mistakes in the past, you can avoid them in the future.
Step 2
Keep a diary. If you seriously decided to learn to understand life signs, then records will be necessary. And it is better to conduct them in two columns: in the first, indicate the events, in the second - your conclusions and conclusions. With time, you will be able to extract the very essence of any problem, and then many sharp corners will be avoided.
Step 3
If looking at yourself from the outside and evaluating events objectively is problematic for you, then resort to the help of someone close to you. This should be the person in whom there is boundless trust. Mom, friend, sister, brother know you well. This means that such a confidant, together with you, can do "work on mistakes" without succumbing to feelings and emotions.
