If you have a meeting and conversation with a stranger, you should understand that in the first minutes of communication, the emergence of tension in the conversation is inevitable. You are unfamiliar and do not know the style of interaction of the interlocutor, his psychotype, manner of dialogue - all this is alarming. Strangers unconsciously create psychological protective barriers for themselves, so your task is to control yourself and not put such a barrier, and, in addition, to reduce the tension that arises during communication, if possible.
Instructions
Step 1
After exchanging greetings, if the meeting was initiated by you, move to a neutral topic. It can relate to the weather, the latest political, social or sports news. Here you must express your view of what happened, with which your interlocutor will probably agree. In turn, you will confirm your agreement with the judgments expressed by him. By doing this, you will eliminate moments that cause feelings of anxiety and begin to destroy psychological barriers.
Step 2
In the further conversation, try to do without terms that may be unfamiliar to your interlocutor, find those words to express your thoughts that will be unambiguously understood by them.
Step 3
In a conversation, look into the eyes of the interlocutor, or select a point with your gaze and look at it, periodically reacting to the speech of your counterpart with a nod or a short phrase, making it clear that you are listening to him with concentration and attentiveness.
Step 4
Start the conversation with phrases that suggest his participation in the conversation and emphasize the importance of his opinion for you "I wonder what you think about …", "What do you think …". Replace the pronoun "I" with the pronoun "you", say not "I want …", but "If you want …".
Step 5
In a conversation, be emotional, smile, react to the words of the interlocutor with facial expressions or gestures, but do not overdo it, everything should be in moderation. Demonstrate trust in the person by adopting a slightly relaxed, comfortable posture that demonstrates a willingness to listen and communicate.
Step 6
If in the further conversation your partner began to supplement and explain his statements, respond more quickly to your questions and immediately express his reciprocal judgments, which are becoming more and more lengthy, then your goal has been achieved and the tension has been reduced, and a constructive dialogue has begun.
