One of the reasons for parting is the grievances inflicted on loved ones. And often the offender then wonders: what did I say or did? Many relationship problems can be avoided by being able to put yourself in the shoes of the other person and judiciously assessing your own words and actions.
Instructions
Step 1
If your loved one is wrong, and you are annoyed by his mistake, do not generalize: “You are always inattentive! You're in trouble! You can't be entrusted with anything at all! " This is a very offensive statement. It can irritate the offender against you and the desire to declare: “Oh so? Then I won't do anything at all! " Instead, ask him to come up with a way to fix the situation.
Step 2
It is easy to offend a person with inattention. Your loved ones expect that you remember important dates from their lives, and they expect congratulations from you not only on official holidays. If you can't rely on your own memory, create a reminder on your mobile phone, computer or calendar.
Step 3
If a loved one wants to share his problems with you, try not to push him away. If you have very little time, listen carefully to it for a while and say: “You know, it's not so easy, you need to think about it well. Let's talk a little later when I’m free.” Of course, if an unceremonious type, to whom you do not owe anything, tries to dispose of your time, you can directly answer: "Sorry, I have absolutely no time."
Step 4
Try to forgive people for their little weaknesses. If someone talks about their overwhelming success in their personal life, in sports or fishing, do not rush to expose and stigmatize. Perhaps these are fantasies, but fantasies are harmless - they are unlikely to harm anyone. Learn to ignore the stories that annoy you - both you are calmer and the interlocutor is happy.
Step 5
Do not criticize the appearance of the interlocutor, his loved ones and his hobbies. It would be unreasonable to point out to a person his mistakes, which he already knows about and, moreover, which he cannot correct. This is not only pointless, but also tactless, and a fairly reliable way to ruin a relationship for a long time.
Step 6
You should also not go too far, trying to please a person. Exaggerated compliments and outright flattery will not please an intelligent and sensitive person - on the contrary, he is more likely to suspect you of some kind of intrigue that needs to be disguised for the time being.
