Some consider pity to be a positive emotion, while others see it as negative. More often than not, pity does not help in any way to correct a negative situation or only aggravates it.
Instructions
Step 1
A person who pities an unfortunate person who has fallen into a difficult situation, a friend, is considered kind and generous. The object of pity feels supported, and together they begin to complain about the evil fate, without trying to change anything. Pity, in some cases, is a completely useless emotion; it spoils the mood of people who really want to help a person. Self-pity is no less dangerous.
Step 2
A person begins to blame others and circumstances for his failures, feel sorry for himself, without thinking about his own guilt. To find a solution to a problem and correct a situation, you need positive emotions. Pity, on the other hand, is a negative feeling, because it prevents a person from concentrating and changing something.
Step 3
Moreover, such a reaction from the people around him greatly humiliates a person. Almost no one wants to provoke pity with their actions, behavior or conversation.
Step 4
Weak individuals who want to shift the solution of their problems onto others' shoulders constantly complain to more fortunate friends and family. For such people, pity is an excuse to curse unhappy fate or other people.
Step 5
It's much easier to feel sorry for someone than to actually help them. In order not to aggravate an already depressed mood of a person, you need not to regret, but to sympathize. At first glance, these are synonyms, but in fact, these feelings are different.
Step 6
A person who sympathizes with someone else's grief does not feel passive pity, but understands his interlocutor and is ready to help him or propose a plan for a way out of a difficult situation. A good friend will not assent to complaints, but will try to calm the person down and he will also remain calm.
Step 7
Therefore, pity cannot come from a truly loved one. Close people will not waste time on fruitless emotions. Ordinary acquaintances or friends, on the contrary, will pity the person, secretly rejoicing that this misfortune did not happen to them.
Step 8
The worst form of this feeling is self-pity. If a person himself does not want to admit his mistakes, no one will help him.
