Solving your problems with the help of a psychologist is becoming common in our society as well. A Russian man, who at first ironically laughed at the heroes of Western films running to representatives of this profession on every occasion, gradually begins to understand that discussing his problems with friends "over a glass of tea" is, of course, a good way to restore peace of mind, but the help of professionals is often much more effective.
Instructions
Step 1
Before contacting a psychologist, admit that you have a problem. Going to a session influenced by the persuasion of loved ones is not the best option. In order to change something in your life, you need to acknowledge the relevance of these changes. If you are confident that you are doing the right thing, and your life is flowing the way you would like, you will not change, no matter how your spouse, friend, or any of your relatives asks you to do so. Only an internal need for change will become an effective motivation in order to reconsider your life and make it different.
Step 2
Find "your" psychologist, ie a specialist with whom you want and can work together on your problem. And the point here is not only the experience and professionalism of a specialist, although this is also very important. Psychologists are people too. And when working with clients, they have certain feelings for them. It is important that you feel comfortable communicating with this person, so that you feel trust in him - then the work will move faster and more efficiently. It is believed that it is easier for a woman to communicate with a male psychologist, and for a man - with a female specialist, but this is not a prerequisite. There are cases when a client is much more comfortable working with a representative of the same gender.
Step 3
Do not expect miracles from a psychologist. A real professional will not give advice, ready-made solutions and clear instructions on how to behave in a given situation. The work of a psychologist is to help a person understand himself, in his reactions to life situations and encourage him to find the best solutions for problems. But the psychologist will not solve your problems for you. Nor does it teach you how to change those around you according to your expectations. The changes will only affect you and your personality.
Step 4
Be honest. Even insignificant details of your past experience can help a specialist understand the motives of your actions, the pattern of your psychological reactions, and therefore provide you with more effective assistance. If you hide something that you are ashamed to talk about, “not convenient”, etc., this, on the contrary, can slow down the process of therapy, because the psychologist will not be able to figure out what exactly touches the strings of your soul. Treat this specialist like a doctor - after all, it would never occur to you to feel embarrassed at a surgeon's appointment
Step 5
Follow the recommendations that you receive from a psychologist, do not be lazy to do exercises, keep notes, etc., even if at first it seems meaningless or insignificant to you. Remember that you can only change your life for the better through painstaking and thoughtful work that you yourself do. The specialist only guides you along the path that you must follow on your own, otherwise the desired changes will never come.
