The joy of the realization of motherhood cannot be expressed in words. You need to feel it: it flies out of the most secret rooms of the heart, like a bird and chirps without ceasing. The pain is forgotten, the tears dry up, and now a small warm lump sniffs at your chest. And then what? One day passed, the second, the third. Tears, nerves, resentment, anger, despair appear - a bouquet of inexplicable emotions. This condition is commonly referred to as postpartum depression. If she knocks on your door, "chase her with a wet broom", not yielding a single step, and you will certainly cope.
Instructions
Step 1
Take it easy. As soon as you feel that hysteria is about to begin, go to the window, open the window and breathe in the fresh air. Take a mirror, look at yourself and say out loud how beautiful, confident, calm, the best mom you are. Self-hypnosis not only improves mood, but also programs the body for favorable events.
Step 2
When cool, do the analysis. There is always a reason for tears, and not even one. The reason may be: lack of sleep, overwork, lack of communication, change in social status and related changes, dissatisfaction with personal needs, fear for the baby, lack of attention and help to your person.
Step 3
Deal with annoying factors in order. Sleep is the key to health and good mood. Sleep during the day with your child, washing and ironing will wait. Do not try to be an ideal mom and hostess at the same time, you are a mom, this is the main thing. Your refrigerator is not thawed, and the flowers have wilted - nothing, and you can live like that, the main thing is your state, which is very keenly felt by the baby. If you don’t have the time and energy for spring cleaning, and you really don’t have it, you don’t have to reproach yourself for it. And do not let others "poke" you with everyday worries, let it be better to help than chat.
Step 4
Mom's life changes in one day. There is no place for dancing until the morning, midnight calls from girlfriends and sitting in a beauty salon for three hours. Priorities are changing. You are aware of this with your head, but your “I” is still resisting. It is especially difficult for those women whose vigorous activity did not stop during pregnancy. You are worried that all your abilities and talents are reduced to baby diapers, as a result of an incomprehensible mood and negativity. Try to set aside an hour for yourself in your high-speed daily routine. Devote this time to your favorite pastime, hobby. Set a goal for yourself - to sew an evening dress for the holiday, and day by day, go to the desired one little by little. This will make you aware that you are doing something important and useful.
Step 5
Deficit of communication. Do not be offended if friends begin to drift away, because now your interests diverge slightly. They do not understand the stories about the choice of cereals and diapers, just as you are not inspired by the love affairs of third parties, which you have not even seen in your eyes. Try to chat on your favorite topics, hang on your phone once a week like in the good old days. Find a compromise in your communication that you can still talk about with enthusiasm. As for those who are sore, here are Internet portals for mothers to help you. The forum will not only introduce you to the same mothers as you, but also allow you to exchange experience, find answers to questions and receive expert advice.
Step 6
Failure to meet personal needs, alas and ah. Unfortunately, you can only calm yourself morally, be patient a little, and it will become easier. Whether you want to wash your hair or make a baby formula, you choose the latter. This is more important. At such moments, when you are angry, remember how much you longed for the appearance of crumbs and with a smile, do all the things.
Step 7
Depression may well cause fear for the little man. How to hold, how to bathe, feed, wear, walk. And if suddenly, something happens? Stop. No if. Perform all common sense manipulations. If you doubt something, seek help from a nurse, literature, experienced moms. Don't exaggerate and think objectively, don't attract negative thoughts.
Step 8
Help. It is necessary like air in the next couple of months from the moment a newborn appears in the house. If you have grandparents, feel free to ask them for help. Let them walk outside for an hour while you cook dinner or relax in the bathroom. As for the child's father, everything is ambiguous here. Having decided to have a child, a man must be ready for responsibility. Not just keeping the baby, but also being able to change the diaper, put to bed, feed and everything else. From the first days of your adaptation after the hospital, teach your husband to take care of the newborn. While you are doing one thing, let dad entertain the baby. Otherwise, fathers are lazy and do not want to fulfill your requests for various reasons.
