Excessive concentration on problems, immersion in stress with your head, constant thoughts about some of the most modest and unimportant issues - all this leads to a deterioration in morale, affects negatively on well-being. How can you learn to relate more easily to problems and everyday difficulties? How, in general, can you start to relate to life easier without making yourself nervous over trifles?
A question to myself. There is a very simple psychological technique that helps to get rid of anxiety and tension, if they are caused by a particular situation. At first, it may seem that the method is not working. But here it is important to have an honest conversation with yourself and be in a state of awareness. I only need to ask myself one question: can I somehow influence the current problem, somehow change the situation at this particular moment? If the answer appears in the mind in the affirmative, then it is worth listening to it and, possibly, doing something that the mind prompts. However, in most cases, people come to the conclusion that it is impossible to change the course of affairs in any way at the moment. And if so, then why cheat yourself, worry and get nervous?
Perception of the situation. There are people who are capable, as they say, of inflating an elephant out of a fly. They are very sensitive to everyday problems, take life too seriously even when it would be worth relaxing and giving up on everything.
In such situations, you should try to change your perception of the problem or situation. Try to look at the issue from a different angle. Or even switch your attention to some other business and tasks. You need to gradually introduce into your life, fix in your mind the idea that if the situation does not change, you need to change your attitude towards it. Very often, unnecessary anxieties, constant concentration on the negative, and so on only exacerbate the state of affairs, upset and increase the degree of seriousness in relation to life.
A smile will save you even on the gloomiest day. It is clear that when everything is not so in life, everything is not the same, when it is impossible to perceive any situations more easily, you do not particularly want to smile. But you need to make an effort over yourself. At first, the smile may be forced, but gradually a feeling of calmness will come, a feeling of inner relaxation will appear. If you instill in yourself the habit of starting every morning with a smile and falling asleep with a smile on your lips, then life will cease to seem gloomy and hard. It will become easy, simple and interesting.
Development of the inner core. You need to fully realize that everything that happens in life does not happen at the will of someone from the outside. Psychologists assert, and not in vain do this, that only the person himself is to blame for all the sorrows, troubles and illnesses. What kind of attitude towards oneself develops during life, how much time is spent on self-improvement and on one's basic needs, affect the attitude towards life, the perception of problems.
It is necessary to engage in self-development, pay more attention to the atmosphere in the apartment and at work, find time for hobbies and good rest. When the body produces a sufficient amount of "positive" hormones, it becomes easier and more joyful to look at life.
