A psychological complex is a set of ideas, thoughts, feelings and attitudes of a person about himself, which do not correspond to reality. Most of the subjective distortions come from childhood, when a child, like a sponge, absorbs the opinions of significant adults and does not know how to defend himself.
There are 5 main sources for the appearance of complexes:
- Family. Parents are the first important people for the child. They give the baby the first idea of himself and the world in general. It depends on them how the child will perceive the surrounding reality: to feel loved and significant, or a picture will forever settle in his worldview in which no one needs him.
- The child grows, his environment expands, friends appear. At the moment when the opinion of comrades becomes more important than the parental (transitional age), parental authority fades into the background. And teenagers with a raging hormonal background, not understanding the reality of what is happening, take on faith everything that is said about them.
- The second half affects the worldview even in adulthood. A rejected woman can easily decide that it is her lack of beauty and believe in it forever. That is why when a person is loved and raised on a pedestal, he flourishes, changes in a positive direction before our eyes.
- The social environment plays an equally important role. A person strives for the same, in order to show that "I am the same as you", in order to be accepted, to avoid rejection and expulsion from the desired group.
- And also a person himself sometimes condemns himself to suffering due to his characteristics, upbringing and well-developed imagination.
Summarizing all of the above, we can conclude that complexes are distorted ideas about oneself, once received from others and accepted as truth.
