You have noticed that some people manage everything in life easily and seemingly playfully, while others have to put in much more effort. Sometimes it can be due to personal charm.
Are you charming?
First, let's try to determine the extent to which personal charm is inherent in you. Several statements are listed below. How many of them do you agree with?
- I can captivate another person with my idea by talking to him only on the phone.
- If I find out that a person to whom I am completely indifferent sympathizes with me, for me he will also become more pleasant.
- I can refrain or in any way avoid the dispute, while remaining unconvinced.
- If in disputes I completely disagree with someone's opinion, I still try to listen to this person in order to understand his point of view.
- When I write, the lines periodically "creep" up.
- As a child, I was everyone's favorite and the object of admiration of family and friends.
- I still often hear compliments addressed to myself, and for any reason.
- The last time I looked in the mirror was literally 5 minutes ago.
So let's see what happened:
- without a doubt, you can be called a charming person, but you are also too self-confident. You cannot admit to yourself the thought that there will be a person who suddenly does not like your person. You should be a little more humble.
- you are a very charming person with whom it is pleasant to communicate. You also have a sense of your own dignity - you perfectly understand that you should not adjust to others just to please them.
not to say that you are everyone's favorite or "star" of the team, but do not worry! Add a little confidence in yourself, it may be difficult for you to convince others that you are right because of excessive modesty and indecision. Above your nose, especially if the truth is on your side.
- unfortunately, you do not appreciate yourself, and you urgently need to do something about it. Try first to change your attitude towards yourself, and only then try to charm others.
How to learn charm?
American journalist and psychologist Judith Weierst argues that charm can be learned as well as good manners. She even outlined several rules by which you can distinguish a truly charming person. Moreover, Judith is sure that the acquired charm eventually becomes part of nature and turns into genuine.
7 secrets of charm
1. A charming person is completely absorbed in communication with you. He does not look over your shoulder in the hope of finding a more interesting interlocutor, does not fumble in his purse, does not examine his manicure and does not assent on the machine.
2. A charming person communicates, not flaunts. When he shines with wit and erudition, he also allows others to shine on an equal basis with himself. He is as great a listener as he is a storyteller.
3. A charming person is like that with everyone - he does not distinguish between gender, age and position in society.
4. The charm has a highly developed intuition. He finds dignity in every person, knows how to comfort and calm.
5. His compliments are selfless. When a charm finds a person interesting, he does not pretend at all.
6. A charming person, even by gestures alone, can show others his disposition towards them. His body language says: "You are dear to me", "I remember about you."
7. A charming person does not consider himself to be and is not perfect. Absolute perfection, like falsehood, completely kills charm. Charms also make mistakes, but they are never afraid to admit it.
