Communication is an interesting but challenging process. Not always in communication, even with the closest and beloved people, we achieve mutual understanding and satisfaction. Psychologists have developed a number of rules that help make communication more enjoyable and effective.
RULE OF COMMUNICATION 1. EMPATHY
Empathy is the ability to look at the world around you through the eyes of another person, the ability to make it clear to your partner that you understand him, empathize with him. In any difficult situation, try to look at it through the eyes of your partner. This will bring you closer and help you find a solution to the problem.
RULE OF COMMUNICATION 2. AUTHENTICITY
Authenticity is the ability to be yourself in communication, to be sincere, open. This is the ability to show those emotions that a person actually experiences. Your sincerity will evoke a reciprocal sincerity in your partner. An open relationship is a close relationship.
RULE OF COMMUNICATION 3. RESPECT
Respect is the recognition of the unconditional self-worth of your communication partner. Non-value when communicating with another person. Respect for your partner means that you allow him to be himself. If you respect your partner, you do not reject him, if you do not like something in his behavior, do not impose your values on him, do not seek to remake him.
RULE OF COMMUNICATION 4. CONFRONTATION
Confrontation is the ability to come into conflict with another person, but at the same time maintain an atmosphere of trust and acceptance. This skill is the hardest of the six. It combines both openness and respect. It is necessary to learn to maintain a balance in communication between the manifestation of your Self and respect for the manifestations of the Self of another person.
RULE OF COMMUNICATION 5. SPECIFICITY
Concreteness is the ability to focus on specific events, feelings, experiences, to avoid unreasonable generalizations and abstractions. For example, the replica "you are always like this!" Is a typical example of unfair generalization. Be specific: what exactly is wrong at the moment?
RULE OF COMMUNICATION 6. IMMEDIATE IN TIME
Immediacy in time is the ability to be in the actual moment, not to run away with thoughts into the past or the future, to remain focused on the actual experiences and thoughts at the moment. A typical escape from the moment is to bury your smartphone on a date or a friendly meeting. This weakens the contact between partners. Drop all your then, then, and the day after tomorrow and be here and now.
Final remark
To be successful and effective in communication, you need to sincerely want to communicate, strive to understand other people, treat people with interest. If you're out of sorts, it’s unlikely that good communication will work out. When going to a meeting with another person, arm yourself not only with the rules of communication, but also with a positive attitude and the desire to spend time together.
