It turns out that every day we hide our feelings in ourselves, not letting others understand what is happening to us. And after all, no one can help us without understanding us correctly. And if they misunderstand, then something explosive happens in the head. Because of what we break a lot of firewood.
Instructions
Step 1
Sometimes we do not know how to correctly convey to a person the essence of what is important. And over and over again we try to express what only our head can understand. It turns out to be easy to state a problem. We just think a lot and at the same time do not take into account our own and other people's feelings at all. Although everyone can understand everything, if you say from the heart and sincerely. We even quarrel over nothing more often than if it were ordinary everyday problems.
Step 2
It is important in every appeal or request to talk about feelings, paying attention to exactly the situation that is in reality. If this is a simple request, then it should in no way be heard as an order. And, of course, before or after you need to be grateful to the person.
Step 3
Pride needs to be tempered, but sometimes it's so hard to do it. And we often say: "I'd rather do it myself, you won't be interrogated!" So you didn't even try to ask to be heard.
Step 4
Of course, it is very important that you listen to the end. Not everyone knows how to convey all the clarity of a situation in two words.
Step 5
Emotions need to be held back, they have always interfered and will interfere. Although for some, a serious conversation is already a problem. Therefore, never say these words. You can choose a number of the softest: discuss, think.
Step 6
In general, you always need to express thoughts along with feelings: "I am very tired, help me please." And try not to say negatively: "I am very tired, will you help me?"
Step 7
Avoid harsh words, this applies not only to mats, but also transitions to personalities. It is advisable to say: “We need to decide”, but not as “You need to”. Otherwise, disputes will begin about who owes whom and who owes what.
