Some modern religions allow polygamy. This is an opportunity for one man to have several companions in life. But not every girl is ready to accept the role of the second wife.
In Islam, second marriages are allowed, but there are certain principles for building a family: a husband must win his family, treat his women equally, make gifts of equal value and pay attention to each. But in practice, this can be difficult to implement, often everything does not turn out the way it is written in the sacred books.
Problems of polygamy
Any woman, striving to get married, wants to build a strong and reliable family. She dreams of children and a loving spouse who will always be there. But in life everything is not so, a man is obliged to support his family, which means he spends a lot of time at work, his wife gets only a few hours a day. And if a second spouse also appears, then this time is greatly reduced.
Not every man can treat women in the same way. He may give preference to one while ignoring the other. The one who gave birth to more children also receives more attention. Advantage can bring about youth, lighter disposition and freshness of the relationship. All this gives rise to jealousy, suffering, which can be very strong.
The first wife often has a negative attitude towards the second, considering her a homeowner. A new woman is a threat to an already established relationship, so animosity can arise. Accusations, slander, quarrels and disagreements arise. Of course, in the modern world, wives do not have to live under one roof, but they still regularly try to ruin the relationship between a spouse and another woman in order to increase attention to themselves.
Why women don't want to be second
By entering into a polygamous marriage, a woman must learn to build relationships not only with her new husband, but also with his family. She will have to establish contacts with her first wife, her children, and also with her husband's parents. This is a tangled tangle that can be negatively disposed towards a new woman, which means that happiness can seem fragile. The second woman encounters relatives after the wedding ceremony, she cannot predict in advance how events will develop, and the fear of the future from such a decision is much stronger than the anticipation of a relationship.
The second wife does not know all the characteristics of a man, she does not yet know how to look after him, as he dreams. She just has to learn all the features of family life, and this makes her vulnerable. Apart from the novelty of the relationship, she receives no other benefits. She cannot even predict how her children will be treated, whether conflicts will arise due to their birth with older heirs.
Modern men are not always able to provide for their families. And despite the income, they can create multiple marriages. The woman in this case is not protected from poverty and fear of being left homeless. Uncertainty about a man's trustworthiness can also reduce the desire to become a spouse.
