Each person has in his memory not only pleasant memories. Unpleasant makes people feel uncomfortable every time they just come to mind. What hurts can sometimes be difficult to wipe out of memory. It can also poison good memories that are on the same timeline next to them.
Instructions
Step 1
If it hurts, then you haven't forgiven yourself. Go to confession and tell the priest about this trouble. Experienced priests are very good psychologists and know how to help a person let go of a situation. It is better not to tell other people about your torment - they will not be able to ensure confidentiality, and you better not form unnecessary attachments. In no case do not contact the sect of Scientologists, they collect dirt on everyone, which is later often used to put pressure on adherents. Take care of your soul and head, do not mess with scammers and do not succumb to their persuasion.
Step 2
Think about how bad memories are taking care of you. Yes, they protect you from future injury, because people learn mostly from their mistakes. So write down a list of helpful lessons you've learned from the traumatic situation. For example, if you broke up with a young man because you told someone confidential information about him, in the future you will be much more careful in conversations - this quality will not hurt you. The main thing is to set yourself up to the fact that the lessons have been learned, and you can move on. Yes, it is unpleasant and disgusting, but these memories are a great stimulus for self-improvement.
Step 3
Put these memories on paper. Describe them in detail and become a lawyer for yourself. Answer each thesis-accusation with an excuse. Understand that since you made a decision then exactly that, it means that there were reasons for that. Even if it's in a bad mood. But now that you have risen to a higher level, to a different degree of awareness, do not be afraid of new mistakes. Remember the saying about the broken and unbeaten. You with negative experience are of greater value than those who have not faced a similar problem. It is as if you have reached a new level of difficulty in a computer game, where both achievements are higher and rewards.
