Self-belief is closely related to two psychological factors. It is self-confidence and a sense of security. You cannot believe in yourself suddenly, in an instant, this is a long process that never ends. Belief in oneself must be maintained constantly, trying to surround oneself only with those things and people who give inspiration and tranquility. The love and support of loved ones is invaluable, but you need to learn to respond in kind. The more a person radiates positive and energy, the more he will return to him, nourishing his faith in his own strength.
Instructions
Step 1
When a person believes in himself, it means that he is convinced of the successful outcome of any business that he starts. This conviction is not enough for many people and everyone, in the end, comes to the conclusion that it is necessary to somehow acquire faith in oneself.
Step 2
Unfortunately, there is no magic pill or magic ritual that could make a person believe in himself in this very second. Even reading literature that promises quick results will not help. This is a process, and it lasts a lifetime. Indeed, in order to believe in yourself, it is not enough to achieve this faith, you need to constantly nourish it.
Step 3
Self-belief is conditioned by two major psychological factors: a sense of security and adequate self-esteem. A sense of security, calmness in the modern hectic world is ensured by relationships with other people. These can be close family members, friends, and loved ones who support you all the time. These are the people who tell you “You are great!”, “You will succeed!”, “You can do it!”.
Step 4
These should be people whom you believe, whose words are important to you. However, such words need to be earned by your actions, your own joy and the support of other people. It is important every day to maintain a sense of gratitude, enthusiasm, joy and give it to them. It doesn't take much to do this: even if you woke up in a bad mood in the morning, go to the mirror and smile.
Step 5
A sense of security is a reliable "rear" in gaining faith in yourself, because this can be done only when someone else believes in you. This is how you build your self-esteem, this is how you begin to believe in yourself. Try to open up to a loved one, have a heart-to-heart talk with him, discuss the problems you are looking for a solution to.
Step 6
Ask him a calm, straightforward question "What do you think, will I do the right thing if …" and so on. This person will feel your trust and will respond in kind. So your relationship will develop into a more serious phase, your assessment in his eyes will grow. And if this person is not indifferent to you, then he / she, at least, will seriously think before answering you. This will instill in you the belief that your actions, words are taken seriously and very important to him.
Step 7
Perhaps you will immediately receive a positive response and a boost of cheerfulness that will give you enthusiasm. If not, do not rush to immediately react sharply to criticism, thereby nullifying all efforts, think, perhaps you are really wrong and change your mind.
Step 8
It may happen that you will insist on your own, thus, your confidence in your own strength will increase, and you will be convinced that you are able to make the right decisions, despite external influences. In this case, do not forget to thank the advisor, say that his opinion is very important to you. So you will maintain a trusting relationship and earn the status of an adequate, thoughtful person who knows how to achieve goals and make the right decisions. And you will see that next time you will be treated with great confidence.
Step 9
Self-esteem can be low, adequate and high. If you do not have enough faith in yourself, then you have low self-esteem, and it needs to be improved. High self-esteem is the other extreme, which also requires correction, because in both cases you do not adequately assess your capabilities, and this can lead to undesirable consequences.
Step 10
First you need to be a strict critic of yourself. Remember all your advantages and disadvantages without hiding anything. Most likely, you will be able to remember a lot, so it is better to arm yourself with a pen and paper, break the sheet into two columns.
Step 11
Look at the sheet in front of you, at the left column with imperfections, do you see a lot there? Now think about which of your acquaintances, friends or some celebrities, about whom you read about in a glossy magazine, do not have these shortcomings? If you still want to get rid of your shortcomings, write in front of each item how you could do it and follow your own recommendations for at least a week.
Step 12
Now look at the merits column. If you did everything honestly, then there will be more lines there, and rightly so. Look at the worksheet every day and remember to cheer yourself up by speaking the words, adding "I": "I am attentive," and so on.
