Divorce is a fairly common occurrence in our society. If a child remains from the first marriage, then all further communication with the opposite sex should be extremely careful. And if there is no point in hiding the relationship from the child further, and you intend to get married, then you should prepare the child to meet someone close to you, but completely alien to him.
1. The best way for a child to meet your new lover is in neutral territory. Not a bad scenario: you are walking with your child in the park, you meet your "good friend" (that is, your beloved) and he suggests that everyone should go to the park together or go fishing. Let the child have pleasant impressions from the first meeting. Let your man not touch you and try to be as tactful as possible. After a walk together, carefully find out if your child liked your beloved.
2. Organize the next few meetings, too, not at your place or at his place: go to a picnic, to the cinema, to a concert. Only after that, when you see that the child does not feel negative emotions towards the man, invite him to your home. Don't rush to live together right away - it's better not to rush here.
3. Never compare the new lover to the baby's dad. For a child, dad is always the best, because these comparisons will only bring negative.
4. Don't change your family habits. Continue cycling on Saturdays and watch a movie together at 21.00. Let the man join your family traditions whenever possible.
5. Be honest with your child. Try to explain that you like this man, but the child will always remain in the first place for you and you will not love him less.
6. Don't make you call your stepfather "daddy." It can only be the initiative of the child himself. The stepfather should not claim to be the father. Let it be "Uncle Sasha or Uncle Yura."
7. Try to make sure that your beloved does not load the child with toys. Better to let them go somewhere together, doing a common cause. This is more useful than expensive gifts.
