Almost every person sooner or later begins to feel dissatisfaction with their own life and decides to change it for the better. However, not everyone succeeds in overcoming their fear of change and really taking action.
Necessary
- - paper
- - pen or pencil
- - Whatman paper
- - scissors
- - magazines
- - access to the Internet
- - Printer
Instructions
Step 1
In order to change your life, you first need to understand in which area you need change. Sit down and analyze all areas of life: family, relationships with people, work, material wealth, your personal qualities. Take a piece of paper and list the areas where you need change.
Step 2
Write a clarifying comment next to each item. If you are not satisfied with the job, in the commentary not only indicate your goal - to change jobs, but also the desired position or area in which you want to realize yourself. If you want changes in your personal life, feel free to describe what kind of changes you expect: meet the person of your dreams, get married, have a child, or, on the contrary, end a hopeless relationship that has dragged on for too long, etc.
Step 3
Consider the question "What will change in my life if these desires are fulfilled?" and write a detailed answer to each item. Thus, you can clearly see how your life can change for the better if you overcome your fear of changing something. Correct motivation is of great importance, since only it is capable of pushing a person to take action.
Step 4
In order to change your psychological attitude and stop being afraid of change, create a collage of desires. Take a drawing paper or a large piece of paper. Find images in magazines or on the Internet that will illustrate your desires. If you want to lose weight, you can use a photo of a person with a figure that you like as an illustration of this dream. To achieve happiness in your personal life, choose a picture with which you will associate this desire: it can be a photograph of a happy married couple or just a drawing that personifies love and tenderness. Cut out pictures of desires from magazines or print photos found on the Internet on a printer, and stick them on a prepared Whatman paper. Hang the resulting collage in the most prominent place in the room, for example, above the bed. This will allow you not to forget about your desires.
Step 5
Spend 10-15 minutes every day visualizing your desires. In a calm atmosphere, look at your collage and imagine in colors what your life will be like when the long-awaited changes take place in it. Visualization will allow you to minimize the fear of acting, and after a few days you will feel that not only have ceased to be afraid, but you yourself really want your desires to come true as soon as possible. You can also use the method of visualization "by contradiction": imagine what your life will be like if you still do not dare to change something in it.
Step 6
Prepare yourself for the fact that everything you want cannot happen at once in one moment, since all changes occur gradually. Remember that even the smallest step will invariably bring you closer to the realization of your dreams, so develop a strategy for achieving the goal and start working on it. If you want to lose weight, but are still afraid of dieting or exercising, start small: replace one of the plentiful meals with a more modest or healthy one, and instead of exhausting yourself with long workouts in the gym, do the simplest five-minute exercises. After a couple of weeks, you will feel that everything is not scary at all, and you will be ready to complicate the program to achieve what you want.
Step 7
Treat yourself with little gifts for every step you take. For example, you made up your mind and talked with your husband about what does not suit you in a relationship - as compensation, allow yourself to buy some new thing. You've been on a diet for a week - eat your favorite cake. Have written a letter of resignation - arrange yourself an unscheduled meeting with friends.
Step 8
Support from the outside will help you start your journey towards achieving your plan. Talk to family or friends you are confident in, talk about your goals and desires, and ask them to mentally help you. All people are interested in making the life of their loved ones successful, and therefore they will definitely help you to stop being afraid of change and start the difficult path to achieving everything you have planned.
