It just so happens that over the past few years, positive thinking has been considered the key to success. And we diligently practiced affirmations, put on a smile in the morning and generally tried to look for the positive even where there is none. But, as it turned out, we were just wasting time.
Modern research is increasingly proving that positive thinking does not work, and rather the opposite approach is more useful. As it turned out, constant thinking about the future, about our dreams and hopes greatly reduces the chances of success. But New York psychologists Gabriel Oettingen and Scott Barry Kaufman are ready to offer practical advice that will certainly not fail.
A wish
At the beginning, traditionally, you need to decide on the goal. What do you want the most? It is important that the goal should really relate to the reality around you. For example, it can be losing weight or buying a car.
Result
Think about the results of achieving your goal. What will happen if the desire is fulfilled? Very often people are immersed in dreams about the result of an unfulfilled desire and, as a result, stop working to achieve the goal. Don't make this mistake again.
Obstacles
So, you have decided on all the possible and impossible benefits from fulfilling your desire. But what about the cons? You should be specific about what stands between you and your goal. Sometimes, such interference is not so obvious. For example, to get rid of extra pounds, you need to not only give up some foods, but also traditional summer barbecue with friends in nature, going to an Italian restaurant where such a chic carbonara pasta, etc.
Plan
Once you've identified the obstacles that might hinder you, make a detailed plan to achieve what you want. Indicate how exactly you will cope with this or that obstacle. Once you've done this, begin your plan. Be methodical until you get past all the obstacles and you will soon reach your goal.
