Focusing on the inner world makes acquaintance difficult. Introverts stick to their comfort zones and feel awkward in front of new people. But without friendly support, a sense of isolation is born. How to find people with whom it is easy and comfortable?
Introverts are not anti-social. They use a different way of communicating. Less words. More attention, calmness, depth. They are friends with each one individually. Therefore, having decided to break the circle of loneliness, you should be patient and work hard.
1. Write down the purpose of the search. Understand what qualities the characters are impressed with. Identify the points of contact:
- what you do with a friend in your free time;
- what are you talking about;
- what kind of life do you lead;
- what interests or worries.
The more clarity in the intentions of the search, the fewer mistakes when dating and building relationships.
2. Be prepared for the fact that friends are a minority. Openness, the ability to accept people is right. However, acceptance does not mean being friends with everyone. Moreover, to serve and sacrifice. This is especially important to understand for introverts who do not have reserves of social energy, do not have enough time for everyone. You should be selective. When meeting new people, pay attention to how you feel at the moment of meeting, after meeting.
3. Arm yourself with patience. Finding like-minded people will take some time. Look at the dating process with curiosity. Mismatches, refusals, collapse are inevitable. However, the result is worth the work and the wait.
4. It will be inconvenient. Another inevitability for introverts is discomfort at the beginning of the journey. Acquaintance assumes new places, events, unusual pastime. Get ready to move.
5. Look around you. Perhaps there are already such people nearby, but the friendship did not work out. Start thinking well of them. Take the first step. It is difficult for introverts to find their way around, so prepare ahead of time. Considering the nature of the event or event, think about where to start the conversation, how to continue the conversation. Ask for contacts, offer to meet. The worst thing is to get rejected. Even such a result will be the next starting point.
6. Expand your search. For example, try searching for:
- a local club or circle that unites people by hobbies, hobbies;
- Internet forum, interest group - introverts easily communicate via e-mail, video link.
7. Be yourself. Don't try to please everyone. Attempts to please attract unnecessary people. You should also not tell your life story during the first 5 minutes of the meeting. Make yourself comfortable with your friends. Being sincere is risky. At the same time, it is the fastest way to find real friends.
8. Organize your community. If it’s hard to take the first step, start a blog, social media group, or offline club. When you can't find friends, make yourself visible so that they can find you.
