Vanity is a great sin. Forgetting, a person begins to look for praise and glory wherever possible, not paying attention to anything else. The illness of vanity is difficult to notice right away, although it can be very clearly visible to others. The person himself, sometimes without realizing, strives to get praise, bathe in glory, applause and approval, feeding on them, like a vampire. If you have noticed the sin of vanity in yourself and sincerely want to get rid of it, serious psychological work lies ahead.
Instructions
Step 1
Control yourself. It sounds simple enough, but vain people sometimes do not notice all the manifestations of their vanity. You need to learn to keep track of any little things that again and again push you on a dangerous path and deliberately reject them. If you do something, do not expect praise for it. Learn to do great good deeds for no reason, not so that others know about it, but simply out of the best of intentions. At first it is very difficult, because you are used to being praised and uplifted. But it is humility that cures vanity.
Step 2
Learn to be inconspicuous, learn to be humble and generous. After all, only a truly generous person is able to give a piece of his for another so that no one knows about it. There are patrons who donate on their own behalf, and there are those who donate incognito. Do you know how they differ? For the latter, it does not matter whether someone finds out about their good deed or not. For truly noble and kind people, the result is important, what they sacrificed for. Those who advertise their own actions, expecting praise and approval from the broad masses, see the result not in a good deed, but in their own fame.
Step 3
Learn to love yourself! To love just the way you are. Without embellishment and regalia. Only in this case, others will begin to really appreciate you and believe that you can do a lot. Vanity is an attempt to find support and additional strength in praising and rewarding others. Many people do not understand that their main strength is not in other people and their approval, but within themselves. Indeed, by doing a good deed or overpowering yourself, you show your own strength, which does not need additional confirmation from the outside.
