Modest, quiet and shy people often admire the qualities inherent in strong personalities - the ability to fight back, defend their interests, protect their loved ones. However, if you want to, you can also learn to behave in this way with offenders.
Instructions
Step 1
Learn to be patient and detached. A fairly common mistake of weak people is that in a stressful situation they act, guided by emotions, and not reason. They may panic, cry, or respond to the offender with rash aggression and eventually fail. Learn not to react as sharply to unpleasant events. A raised eyebrow, a perplexed look and eloquent silence in response to an insult from the interlocutor looks better than tears or statements in the spirit of "he is like that."
Step 2
Knowledge is power. The broader your horizons, the more chances that you will be able to find the correct and reasonable answer to the claims against you. You will never know in advance what may be useful to you during an argument with an opponent. This can be both technical documentation for your computer, and information about the mating rituals of baboons, which you gleaned from a popular science film.
Step 3
Learn to say no. Many children (especially girls) were taught to be polite, sweet, kind and reliable. Indeed, at home and at school with such a child there are much less problems. However, in adulthood, those around you can begin to shamelessly use these qualities, and you, out of habit, will fulfill their requirements, trying to please everyone. But if you are not eager to meet a colleague's son by car at the airport or to transfer for your niece, you have the right to say “no” without giving any reason. And the more often you exercise your right, the better you will be at it.
Step 4
Get your opinion to be heard. To begin with, you should start expressing it, if you have not done this before, otherwise others will understand that you are dissatisfied with something, or that something does not suit you. Get out of the habit of adjusting to everyone. If you find it uncomfortable to meet in a bar where your friends invite you to gather, tell me about it. If this did not affect the situation in any way, refuse the meeting. Next time, your interests will be treated more carefully.
