Anger, resentment and other emotions accompany us every day and rob our sanity. There are a lot of people who can be irritated by any trifle. Conversely, good-natured people have a high working capacity and are able to improve the mood of other people.
Instructions
Step 1
Start your day with a smile. Smiling relieves stress and delays aging. When you wake up, turn on calm music, tune in to good relations with family and colleagues, remember something pleasant.
Step 2
Of course, life does not consist only of positive aspects. You work, waste time in traffic jams, stand at bus stops and wait for transport, nervously glancing at your watch. And if you pull yourself together and try not to get annoyed, tk. your impatience cannot shorten the waiting time.
Engage in "discreet" exercises at times like these to help strengthen your back, arms, or abdomen. The people standing nearby did not notice anything, and you improved your health. Let any such stop be a signal for you to relax.
Step 3
Learn to react immediately to the annoying factor, but express your emotions in an appropriate way. This means the following.
- The phrase should begin with a non-accusatory, neutral description of the actions of another person whose behavior does not suit you, and then it should describe your reaction to such behavior.
- Then explain how this behavior affects you.
- Then describe what you would like using the following phrases: “I would prefer”, “I would like to”.
By expressing your concerns openly, you will improve your relationship with the other person and can motivate them to work together to solve the problem.
Step 4
Analyze your life. Perhaps in your irritability lies dissatisfaction with the current situation, dissatisfaction with the state of affairs.
Step 5
Try not to read or watch messages about disasters, unpleasant incidents. The negativity from newspapers and TV contributes to fear and irritation.
Step 6
Remember every evening all the good things that happened to you during the day.
Step 7
Engage in self-regulation techniques that will help relieve unnecessary stress and find harmony in the soul: breathing exercises, yoga, Pilates.
Step 8
Try the technique of gratitude. When you feel annoyed, mentally thank your opponent for all the good things he wanted to tell you.
Forgive him and yourself for the emotions, feelings, words that you feel for him. Look for positive, positive moments in every action. And soon you will learn to enjoy life and get rid of irritability.
Step 9
Do not neglect one very old technique: take up to 10 deep, calm exhalations and breaths. During this time, your emotions may not completely calm down, but at least they will not develop so rapidly.
