The dictionary offers the following definition of self-esteem: "to have a good opinion of yourself." It looks very simple, but unfortunately it's easier said than done.
It is not easy to treat yourself with respect all the time, but it is very important to be able to listen to yourself and not to the opinions of outsiders. But it can be learned with effort.
Unfortunately, self-esteem is knocked out of a person at an early age. We are taught that the status "worthy" does not come from within our individuality, but is acquired through what we can, have and how we behave in public. It is very rare that parents teach a child that they also need to love themselves.
One of the first rules of being able to value yourself is never to compare yourself to others. Self-esteem has nothing to do with the idea of "I am the best."
There are also myths that pride is tantamount to self-respect, and a person who puts his needs first is an egoist. In our society, any form of positive attitude towards oneself is a reason for contempt, this is not correct. Proud people are not self-confident, as they constantly have to prove to themselves and others that they are better than them. And people who know how to set goals and go towards them are just full of self-respect, and are often not selfish, but are always ready to help others. This substitution of concepts is beneficial. Because in this way it is convenient for society to manage a person.
You need to love and praise yourself, learn to listen to what your heart desires, to be able to refuse help to people if this help is at a loss for you, and never "spread rot" on yourself for it. The first steps are always difficult, but only after you feel that loving yourself is pleasant and very beneficial for you, everything will start to go for the better.
Self-esteem gives you the right to choose. If, for example, you broke up with your partner, then there is always a choice: suffer or move on. It is always difficult to make a choice, because it is natural for a person to deprive himself of it - to muck himself within four walls and cry over photographs. But there are reasons for any parting, and since it happened, it means, most likely, there is nothing to grieve over. Therefore, it is more expedient to take courage and allow yourself to come to the conclusion that this is even better.
As a result, you can get a lot of strength and energy from self-esteem, saved from the time when you "rotted" yourself. You can learn to look at the world positively, start being more open to the world. Having respect for himself, a person necessarily takes the path that he likes, and walks along it easily and naturally.
