Empathy is the ability to feel other people's problems as if they were your own. This quality is also called empathy. Someone has it stronger, someone weaker, but its complete absence is not typical for people. Much of human interaction is based on empathy.
Instructions
Step 1
A very common reason for a lack of sympathy is not an inability to feel it, but an unwillingness to look at others. Psychologists have always noted that married couples who have serious problems do not sympathize with each other. In this case, the partner is often perceived from a selfish position. Each partner wants the other to pay attention to him first, to do what is “necessary”. But the one who is the first to show attention will always win. Of course, attention must be genuine and disinterested, not counting on reciprocal action.
Step 2
Empathy is understanding what the other person is missing. Sometimes it is enough to look closely at others to understand what they need. This allows you to deeply understand the needs of others, soften any relationship. Compassion is especially needed by those who receive it least: children and the elderly. Empathy is the foundation for developing deep and trusting relationships with both the child and the elderly parent.
Step 3
Fear of pain or selfishness is often a problem for showing empathy. Try to deal with it. If you feel that someone from those around you who depend on you needs help, then you will have to provide it, even forgetting about your own goals, which previously seemed priority. For example, if you are a business person, then, sympathizing with your wife who waits for you from work in the evenings, you will try to come home early, although before that such a requirement seemed absurd.
Step 4
Sometimes a person is accused of lack of sympathy not because he really does not understand others, but because he does not express his feelings. You may be worried about someone, but if you do not say so, then some people will sometimes find you heartless. Especially often people who are not used to talking about their feelings come across this. Try to be more open with your loved ones. If you feel something - say about it, such a policy will allow you to establish a relationship of trust and get rid of accusations that you do not know how to empathize.
Step 5
It's hard to empathize with what you don't understand. For example, some young and inexperienced people find it difficult to sympathize with the elderly. It is not for nothing that they say that "the well-fed does not understand the hungry." If you are faced with someone's life experience that is very far from yours, try to put yourself in that person's place. Do not judge harshly, even if someone has made a seemingly unforgivable mistake. In general, it is better not to judge anyone. You don't know what you would do yourself if you were in a similar situation. When it is harder for someone than for you, and you understand this difference, feel the pain of this person - this is called empathy.
Step 6
Empathy isn't just about understanding what other people are going through. It is also the ability to be attentive, to treat others with tact and courtesy. Try to help people. Make it a habit for yourself to do a good deed, for example, once a week. The feelings that will take over you when you help someone will help you not only learn empathy, but also become a kinder and more merciful person.
