Empathy is the ability to see the world through the eyes of another person, and also be able to show the other person that you understand him. Empathy manifests itself through empathy, empathy.
It's easy to show empathy. It is necessary to remember about several of its features.
Empathy implies valuelessness. This means that when communicating with another person, you do not give your assessments "good" or "bad", you do not try to moralize, condemn. If you communicate with another from a position of empathy, then you are simply listening to your partner, trying to look at the situation through his eyes, to understand his feelings and experiences in his situation.
Examples of anti-empathic statements:
- Oh, this is terrible and unacceptable. Stop doing that.
- Only a scoundrel could have behaved like that.
- Forget it, it doesn't matter.
- Are you a blonde?..
- You should be glad that everything turned out this way.
- All men (like you) have one thing on their minds.
Examples of empathic statements:
- I can hear you, I understand your emotions.
- Yes, this has happened to me too.
- I can imagine how you feel.
- How do you feel about this?
- How do you feel?
- Can I somehow help you with your worries?
When you interact with another person empathically, you forget about yourself for a moment, push aside your opinions, beliefs, and attitudes. Instead, you focus entirely on your partner, on his feelings, outlook on the world, values.
However, your feelings are involved in empathy: in order to hear another person, you need to be aware, understand, hear your emotions.
When you fully empathize with the other person, it helps them feel accepted for who they are. The person begins to feel safe with you, trusts you more, is less shy, throws off his social masks and gets the opportunity to just be himself.
