Sometimes it happens that past grudges poison people's lives. Time certainly heals, but pain and resentment can be carried in your heart for years if you cannot get rid of them right away.
Instructions
Step 1
Stop reflecting, at least for a while. Self-digging, constant attempts to think about your behavior, memories of the hurt, thinking about what you could have done in response, but did not - all this makes you fixate on the situation and creates a vicious circle from which it is difficult to break out. Let go of the situation.
Step 2
Concentrate on the present. Think not about what was, but about what is. Try to tune in to the positive: when the hurt inflicted on you comes to mind, block it with pleasant memories.
Step 3
If you just can't get rid of obsessive thoughts about the offense inflicted on you, try to look at the situation from the outside. Review the most important points in your head, remember how and under what circumstances an unpleasant situation occurred. Do not try to force yourself to remember - the memory itself will tell you what exactly torments you the most. After recreating the situation, consider it. Think about the fact that it has already passed, that life continues, and the past resentment no longer really matters to you. If you no longer communicate with the abuser, think about the fact that he is no longer in your life.
Step 4
Try another effective method of getting rid of past grievances - displacing pain from the heart. Make sure that no one distracts you: turn off your phone and be alone. Sit down, relax, close your eyes. Imagine that the hurt inflicted on you sits in your heart and haunts you. Do not concentrate on it, do not force yourself to relive everything. Imagine that a light breeze is touching you, blowing bad memories from your heart. Let the hurt and pain go away, do not hold them back. Switch to pleasant memories, think about what is good in your life now. Do not hurry. Believe me, after this exercise, you will probably breathe easier and more freely.
Step 5
If none of the methods work, try seeing a psychologist. He will analyze the current situation and suggest a way out.
