Grievances inflicted by people who are not indifferent to a person are most painful. A rash act of a friend can not only darken the relationship, but also lead to their complete break. How to get over the hurt and restore friendships?
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, evaluate if your friend wanted to hurt you, or if everything happened unintentionally, by accident. If the insult is accidental, then just forget about it - they did not want to upset you, which means there is no reason to worry. Think about yourself - haven't you involuntarily had to offend someone? There was no malicious intent in your words or actions, everything happened by chance. They did not think, did not assess the situation. You have probably been forgiven, forgive you too.
Step 2
There are situations when a friend deliberately offends. Even friends can sometimes quarrel and tell each other in the heat of a quarrel too much. But it is precisely in such situations that friendship is tested. It often happens that both understand the absurdity and stupidity of the situation, but at the same time, each waits for the other to come to reconcile first. Usually in such a situation, it is not the weaker one who goes first to put up, but the wiser and more patient one. Think about the fact that your friend is also worried about the quarrel, but does not find the strength to be the first to go to the world. Help him, take the first step yourself. And you will see how quickly all grievances will be forgotten.
Step 3
Don't feel bad about your friend. On the contrary, try to always think well of people, including friends. Justify their words and actions, understanding that people are imperfect and often do stupid things. Do not forget that you are not much different from them, that you also have something to work on in yourself. Learn not to kick back, word for word. Forgiving is a sign of spiritual maturity.
Step 4
Laughing at grievances is one of the best ways to deal with them. Why is a person offended? Because he takes himself too seriously. It is pride, selfishness that makes you feel wounded. If a person gets rid of pride, then when he meets it, no matter who and in what capacity it manifests itself, he wants to laugh. He laughs at himself with no less pleasure. Good friends, even having quarreled and saying nonsense to each other, will remember their yesterday's quarrel with a laugh the very next day.
Step 5
The ability to forgive insults, to forget about them is very useful, but the ability not to be offended is even more important. If something hurts you, then you have something to work on in yourself. Identify your weaknesses and get rid of them - then there will simply be nothing to hook you with. Any attempts to "get" you will be greeted with laughter. You will simply forget how to be angry, the words and actions of people will cease to cause negative responses in your soul. By deliberately annoying you, the person is trying to manipulate you, bring you into a certain psychological state. But if you forget how to be offended, all his efforts will be useless. Rather, on the contrary, you can manipulate him, since a person who is trying to humiliate someone is usually very vulnerable himself.
