The death of a loved one always comes as a shock, even if it was not unexpected. It will take a long time for the pain of the severe loss to subside and allow you to return to normal life. People suffer loss in different ways. Someone quickly comes to his senses, and someone even years can not relieve melancholy and pain.
Instructions
Step 1
The most mysterious side of human life is death. The loss of loved ones gives the feeling of being knocked out of the ground. It may seem that life is destroyed to the ground and has lost all meaning. The suffering seems unbearable. This is grief for the departed loved one, self-pity, a feeling of loneliness and hopelessness. Feelings of guilt, the inability to turn the clock and helplessness from the thought that nothing can be fixed, often completely ruin the life of someone who is faced with a similar situation.
Step 2
It is impossible to come to terms with the idea of loss, and you need to realize that months, and maybe years, must pass for the mental pain to cease to be so acute. The funeral and farewell to the deceased do not give anyone the right to put an end to their own life. The soul of the departed needs support and the bright memory of him should not be lost under the influence of despair and depression. Accepting death does not mean oblivion and lack of experience. You should not hold back tears and hide how heavy and unbearable your feelings are from others. Grief is natural, pain must be lived through to cope, get used to it, and regain lost balance.
Step 3
Advice to "hold on" and "hold on" does not mean that grief must be driven deep into the soul. Memories of a loved one and stories about him do not indicate a weakness of spirit, even if they are accompanied by tears. Emotions should spill out, the ability to speak out helps this best. Holding back the emotional manifestations of grief can lead to lingering depression. If, after 3-4 months after the funeral, the condition does not improve, it may make sense to seek help from a practical psychologist. Do not overuse sedatives. The pain muffled by them increases when the effect of the drug comes to an end.
Step 4
Trying to go headlong into grief, concentrate on loss and withdraw into oneself leads not only to physical and mental health problems. Leaving a normal life makes friends and relatives worry and worry, can complicate intra-family relationships. Do not forget about the people who are alive and close. They should not be deprived of love and care. Even if the pain of loss is unbearable, you need to collect all your mental strength and try not to avoid communicating with your family. Even in such a situation, you cannot think only of yourself. Allow yourself to be supported, it is necessary not only for you, but also for your family.
