Often, people, not wanting to quarrel with loved ones, accumulate resentments for a long time and do not talk about even the most powerful negative emotions. This behavior can lead to very serious problems and is best avoided.
Unspoken grudges and relationship difficulties
Negative emotions, suppressed over time, can destroy even a relationship that seemed very strong. They destroy families, lead to quarrels between lovers, colleagues, neighbors, relatives, close friends. That is why it is so important to explain what you had to be out of touch with.
Hidden grudges turn people into hidden enemies. The result is situations where the relationship simply falls apart. Moreover, people can not only part, but even cherish plans for revenge.
Unspoken grievances persist in the heart for a long time. First of all, they are dangerous because the negative accumulates, even if others do not suspect about it. It would seem that anger has long since died down, but an unpleasant aftertaste remains in my soul, which every day more and more corrodes the feeling of love, tenderness, gratitude. As a result, the person begins to get angry with his abuser. Every "wrong" word, from his point of view, can cause irritation. As a result, a person who has survived and has swallowed an offense one day breaks down and makes a scandal over a seemingly trifling occasion.
There is another, no less unpleasant scenario. A person can remember for a long time the insult and his claims, which he did not dare to express, even if the other participants and witnesses of the situation have long forgotten about it. If one day, in a fit of anger, he remembers this situation, the problems accumulated by both parties will turn a trifling quarrel into a real scandal that can lead to a break in relations.
How unspoken grievances affect the human psyche
By melting resentment in their hearts for a long time, people hurt themselves. They think about what happened so often that it badly affects their mood. The result is irritability, unwillingness to communicate with the offender, even if the incident has long exhausted itself and no longer matters.
Unspoken resentment can be carried over from one person to many. Often, children abandoned by their fathers and unable to share their grief begin to treat all men badly at once.
Unfortunately, it is not uncommon for the victim of unspoken resentment to become the person who has experienced it. This unpleasant feeling makes people doubt themselves, suffer from insecurity, and even acquire a habit of self-deprecation. So a lonely girl, offended by a friend who has successfully married, can develop a number of complexes in herself that reduce self-esteem and undermine the psyche. By talking about your feelings, you can avoid these problems.
