Inappropriate comments can be confusing for an inexperienced lecturer or tour guide. The easiest way is to ignore them. But sometimes such a remark is thrown not because of the bad manners of the opponent, but is a tool for influencing the speaker. Then it has to be reflected. It is most correct to reduce the inappropriate attack to a joke.
Necessary
- - acting studio;
- - classes in acting training;
- - consultation of a psychologist.
Instructions
Step 1
If your activity involves speaking to groups of people or teaching, you must be prepared to fend off verbal attacks. Including off-topic remarks directed directly at you. Remember, these attacks are aimed at your self-esteem, so the opponent should not be allowed to reach the goal.
Step 2
For the correct answer to an inappropriate attack, you need an accurate assessment of the situation and an awareness of your role in it. This will envy the type of reaction you choose. The speed and accuracy of the reaction are of paramount importance here, in which elements of the acting training will help you, in particular, the acting out of the mise-en-scène.
Step 3
It is very useful to have a set of behavioral templates in advance that can be applied in a critical situation. Models of such blanks are just called mise-en-scènes. You can learn how to use them in a drama club or theater studio. Notice how changing the situation fundamentally changes the behavioral response in initially seemingly similar mise-en-scenes. The spectrum of your reactions can range from polite sympathy to violent rebuff.
Step 4
Let's say you are a student in the "Student - Examiner - Lace" mise-en-scène. You confidently answer the ticket when the examiner inappropriately tells you: "Your lace is untied!" The examiner's goal is clear, he wants to destabilize your condition. But you, without losing your courage, retort: "Today I am like Gagarin on the carpet in front of the state commission." The teacher smiles nostalgically.
Step 5
In the mise-en-scène "Student - Lecturer - Lace" you can get the role of the lecturer. An observant and malicious student does not miss an opportunity to throw a reply to you: "Your lace is untied!" Putting your foot on a chair, thoughtfully tying a lace and looking out the window, you say meaningfully: “Indeed. The laces are completely untied these days. Let's take it into account. " The audience giggles respectfully, the sarcastic student slightly intimidated.
Step 6
Even if you are a witty and resourceful person, consider whether it is worth answering an inappropriate remark addressed to you, or it is better to ignore it. Here is an example of the "Ham - Policeman - Lace" mise-en-scene. Ham: "Hey, you, your lace is untied!" Policeman: "I missed your neck." If you are not a police officer, the consequences can be negative. Don't lose touch with reality if you're not on stage.
Step 7
Perhaps the most difficult type of response occurs when communicating with a lady at a social event. The mise-en-scene "Lady - Gentleman - Lace" can help you here. The lady is terrified, she exclaims: “God! You have a lace on your boot … untied! " You, slightly embarrassed, answer: “Madam, it's okay. The lace is on the boot, not on the corset. " The lady blushes slightly, and you retire to tie the lace.
Step 8
It's easy to master the techniques of translating inappropriate comments into a joke. But, perhaps, it is more important to understand whether all sorts of taunts and attacks against you hurt you too much? Is your self-esteem good enough? Consulting a psychologist can help you with this.
