When everyone around you offends, a bitter soul-destroying feeling haunts you, you experience irritation, anger, dislike - a whole bunch of negative emotions that cause suffering. But instead of contemplating revenge or getting rid of those around you, try to figure out the real reasons for the resentment.
Get to the bottom of the truth
Analyze what happens when you think that everyone around you is wrong: you expect people to behave in a certain way, but their actual actions are different from your thoughts. Do you think that a friend, loved one, brother, etc. must do the right thing by virtue of their relationship with you. A person who is not connected with you in a close relationship should do the right thing from the point of view of morality, norms and rules accepted in society.
Thus, you mentally form the proper behavior of other people, imposing restrictions that only seem logical and correct to you. Understand that each person decides for himself how to build relationships and what rules to follow. And although you consider your opinion to be the only correct one, you cannot dismiss the real state of affairs: proper, possible, unacceptable behavior, worldview, attitude to morality for everyone, because two people with the same inner world do not exist.
Deal with resentment
If you understand that the real reason for the offense is only your unjustified expectations, then you can easily stop being offended. Remember, no one owes you anything - be condescending to other people's shortcomings and weaknesses, respect the opinions of other people. Try to replay the last hurt in your mind with this thought.
Look into the future: imagine that several years have passed since an unpleasant incident, and you are assessing the hurt inflicted. Perhaps you will not even remember about it after a while, which means there is no point in worrying in the present. In any case, you understand that later you will not attach much importance to it, so do not take it personally now.
When you are offended, most often you are subject to strong emotions, perhaps you are exaggerating or dramatizing. Because of this, even a harmless action appears in a negative light. Therefore, discard emotions, try to assess the situation soberly, and you will see that in the bottom line there are only neutral events that are foolish to be offended.
Think about why you are offended and what you get from this feeling. You are mistaken if you think that everything will change after an offense, problems will be solved because of worries, torment will allow you to think clearly, and those around you will beg for forgiveness and will do anything so that you are not offended. Remember, resentment hurts and spoils the mood only for you, and you decide whether to take offense or forget and live happily.
