It happens that, despite the charm and a lot of interests, communication with people does not always develop. Most likely, the matter is in some subtle and completely harmless oversights. They can be very small, but they spoil relationships with people quickly.
What should you pay attention to when communicating in order to avoid mistakes.
A lot of noise
The more jokes and irony in speech, the more likely a person will become the soul of the company. But, laughing at his witticisms, we are subconsciously a little afraid of such a person and do not go for rapprochement: wit is perceived as aggression. As for women humorists and jokers, they are often lonely - men prefer to laugh at their jokes.
Negatively discussing other people
Such revelations unite (after all, now there is one common secret), but not for long, as they cause alarm: it is still unknown what the interlocutor tells others about you.
"Hump and gag"
When we listen to a person, we try to somehow react to his words. But many people think that it is better not to interrupt, but to insert more often, for example, "hmmm". In reality, it seems to the narrator that the listener is not interested in the story. This automatically moves people away from each other.
Is there separately
This is actually an important reason. To distance yourself from the team when it comes to eating: to refuse treats, to immerse yourself in work, at the moment when everyone decided to drink coffee, to say at the table: "I'm on a diet today." By doing this all the time, a person evokes hostility from others, and a subconscious one. Because eating together has been perceived since ancient times as an act of friendship and discovery.
Always strives to help
There are people who will not pass by if they see, feel or think that a person is in trouble - they will help even to the detriment of themselves. Everyone appreciates such altruism, but they try to avoid companionship. First, they are burdened with a sense of duty. Secondly, the one who helped, by his presence alone, does not allow one to forget about those troubles.
Too much good to say
Compliments are the decoration of communication. Hence, it is worth observing moderation. Praising and admiring often can be frightening. It turns out that the person is constantly watching you, thinking about you. What this means is unknown. But it's best to stay away from him.
To wave hands
The more active the gestures and the wider the range of movements, the more conflicts. Such movements are read on an unconscious level as aggression and cause a corresponding reaction. People, unexpectedly for themselves, begin to respond sharply, turn away, move away. Or they just leave.
Look straight in the face
Many people think that this is a manifestation of attention. In fact, this is not the case. In order to deliberately provoke hostility, there is even such an "exercise" - to look at the interlocutor during a conversation as if you noticed something strange on his face.
Give advice in any form
They are still a reason for dissatisfaction. After all, each of us has a need to consider all our achievements as our own merit, and pass on failures to another. Show the patterns of the social machine. Well, who will be to blame if a friend advised me to go to the boss with suggestions, and at that moment he was out of sorts.
