People often feed on depicting feelings or emotions that don't really exist. Someone does what is expected of him, someone does not want to upset loved ones, someone feeds on manipulating others. Whatever the reason, people are not always sincere in their feelings.
Instructions
Step 1
In order to distinguish sincere feelings from fake ones, you need to be attentive, compare what you hear and see. If a woman says words of love, but at the same time frowns or averts her eyes, you can confidently talk about lies or deception.
Step 2
Real emotions arise spontaneously and instantly. The quickness of the reaction is very difficult to recreate. Take a close look at the interlocutor, if there is even a small pause between your words and his reaction - the emotion is not real. Real emotions arise immediately.
Step 3
The duration of the emotion also changes. For example, if the surprise is not real, then the person is "surprised" a little longer than it should be in order to convince you of his sincerity. And this surprise ends abruptly.
Step 4
The most popular method of hiding true feelings is smiling. Therefore, pay close attention to facial expressions. If the smile is real, the person instantly transforms, lights up like a light bulb. If you see that a person seems to be smiling with his lips, but his eyes are motionless, eyebrows are frowned, there are no rays of wrinkles around the eyes - most likely such a smile is fake.
Step 5
You shouldn't forget about the eyes either. No wonder the saying about eyes and mirrors appeared. If a person turns his eyes to the side during a conversation, and then begins to look into your eyes, then this is how he tries to find out how much the interlocutor believed what was said. And the fact that he makes eye contact is just a way to convince you of his sincerity.
Step 6
Gestures and body movements also carry information. This is the so-called non-verbal communication. During a conversation, the interlocutor rubs his nose or covers his mouth with his hand? Something is unclean here. Are the interlocutor's arms or legs (or both) crossed or linked? This is a manifestation of a defensive reaction. The topic of conversation is obviously not very pleasant.
Step 7
If you are not confident in excellent knowledge and understanding of sign language, you can rely on intuition. Falsity always leaves an unpleasant aftertaste, some dissonance. Experts even recommend practicing emotion recognition. You can turn on the TV, turn off the sound and just watch the picture. Feature films are especially good for this, because there the actors use not only words, but also non-verbal communication.
Step 8
And yet, one should not go too far. If a person is nervous during a conversation, this does not mean at all that the problem is in you. Everyone can have their own problems. If the interlocutor looks into your eyes a little, maybe the light from the bulb just hits him in the eyes? Be considerate and kind.
