Irritability is one of the most unpleasant personality traits. People prone to irritability collect a sea of negative responses from others. This makes them even more angry, and the feeling of irritation increases. How to get out of this vicious circle?
Instructions
Step 1
Analyze what or who annoys you. It is very rare that a person is annoyed by everything. Usually there is only one source of irritation, but it pours out on many. We need to find this source and understand what to do with it.
Step 2
Avoid sources of irritation. If the cause of irritation does not lie in your immediate environment, you must avoid it. There is no need to waste your nerve cells again. For example, if you are "enraged" by the queues at Sberbank, go to pay utility bills to a commercial bank or use ATMs. If people on the subway are annoying, look for off-rush hour ways if possible.
Step 3
Look for the sources of anger towards people in yourself. The fact is that we are most annoyed in others by those shortcomings that we ourselves have. But in our psyche there are special protections that do not allow us to evaluate ourselves too critically. And then the criticism changes the focus of attention - someone who has the same defect as yours gets into her field of vision. Realize this fact, understand what exactly annoys you in yourself.
Step 4
Learn to control your emotions. Many people tend to discuss their problems with others over and over again. This is especially true for the fair sex. In kitchen conversations, even the happiest wife will find a reason to quarrel with her husband, if it is so customary in her company of friends. And now unpleasant emotions have already arisen from scratch, which she takes with her to the house, and there they begin their destructive effect.
