Life presents daily surprises - pleasant and not so - to which you need to react in a timely manner and correctly. Order in mind and soul contributes to solving problems without stress, calmly and deliberately.
Instructions
Step 1
Create priority ladders for decision making. Sometimes you have to face the world around you and choose thoughts and actions that affect your future life. Loved ones can invade this area, forcing them to think or act in a certain way. In order not to rush about in search of an answer to the question of whom to listen to, it is necessary to define priorities once and for all. To do this, divide your life into meaningful areas. You might end up with a list like this: relationship with husband / wife, parenting, housekeeping, appearance, etc.
Step 2
Develop a priority ladder for each area. In the direction of "raising children" the ladder may look like this: husband, wife, mother. This means that in controversial situations, the opinion of the husband comes first, then the opinion of the wife, and last of all - the opinion of the mother. Once established rules will help you not to be tormented by your soul when you need to say “no” to someone, including yourself.
Step 3
Learn the scale of emotions. There may be different versions of the scale, but make it in accordance with personal experiences. You can get something like this: apathy - fear - resentment - anger - boredom - indifference - curiosity - joy - inspiration - delight. You need to quickly get out of undesirable states and linger for a long time in the state that you like.
Step 4
Find materials for developing desired emotions. In literature, art, and other areas of activity, there are people who have the ability to display certain qualities that correspond to the scale of emotions. Look for people who know how to be happy, curious, overcome resentment, be inspired and inspire others. Find out how they do it and engage in the development of positive emotions.
Step 5
List good examples from literature and other art forms. Such a summary will help you not to lose heart during periods of testing.
Step 6
Eliminate sources of negative influence. If there are people around who make them go down the scale of emotions, break up with them. If this is impossible due to family ties, neutralize their influence. This can be done in two ways. First, by an internal striving up the scale of emotions; secondly, by taking care of these people. They take care of the weak, the infirm, the sick - about those who cannot do something on their own. By showing concern, you become stronger.
