Each parent wants to see a friend in the person of their child, because this is the most dear person for us. But often children do not justify our trust, deceiving and hiding their intentions and actions. Why does this happen and how to wean a child from lying?
Instructions
Step 1
Children are by nature prone to lying. Therefore, it is very difficult to wean them from this. Sometimes the habit of lying disappears as they grow older, and sometimes it remains for life and prevents a person from adapting in society. You can try to wean your child from lying. But here it is worth starting with yourself. Do not ask your child provocative questions, trying to catch him in a lie and then punish him.
Step 2
The child is also a person, and he has a right to his own secrets. This must be respected. You shouldn't pressure your child to tell you all his secrets. Give him the freedom appropriate for his age, do not establish total control over him. By doing this, you will only strengthen the little man's desire to hide his thoughts and intentions from you.
Step 3
If something does not suit you in the behavior of your child, do not try to blame him, but look for a solution to the problem, consulting with him. For example, a child has not cleaned his room. Instead of accusing him, you ask him: "What is the best thing for us to do in order for your room to be in order and as quickly as possible?" If you consult with your child, he will feel like a person and will begin to trust you. Then he will have no fear of punishment and therefore no reason for lying and evasion.
Step 4
Children should not be afraid to tell the truth, no matter how bitter it may be. If the child confesses to the wrongdoing, praise him for his honesty. And be honest yourself! Children first of all take an example from their parents, so if a child sees that you often lie, he will also lie to others. Before asking your child, for example, to lie on the phone that you are not at home, think about the consequences …
Step 5
The child must trust the parents. And trust is born in close communication. Communicate more with children, and then they will deceive you less.
Step 6
If you see that the child is cheating on you, do not shout or punish him, but tell him that it seems to you that he is now telling a lie, and you will wait until he rests and is set for an honest conversation. Do not call your child a liar, as children grow up and their values change. You need to believe that your child will grow up to be honest and decent. And for this it is important that the resentment against you does not remain in his adult life.
