Resentment is, on the one hand, a completely natural emotion, and on the other hand, a terrible destructive force. Resentment can destroy relationships and even break a person's life. We all know to be able to forgive. You need it, of course, you need it. But just how to achieve this in "real life"? Below you can read the rules and tips on how to stop being offended.
Instructions
Step 1
To begin with, you need to understand that your feelings are not obvious to others and your abuser may not even know that you are experiencing that you are in pain. Learn to express your feelings correctly. Talk about what you don't like out loud.
Understand that resentment harms you first of all and by forgiving the offender you will do better for yourself first of all.
Step 2
Train yourself to learn to learn from any situation. Think about the fact that people are more often offended … by the truth. The unpleasant truth, spoken out loud, hurts the most. So maybe it's enough to turn a blind eye to her? Maybe it's time not to be offended, but to change something in your life?
Step 3
Try to understand the feelings of the person who (perhaps not on purpose) offended you. Try to get into his position, understand his motives. Perhaps instead of being offended, you sympathize with him.
Step 4
If you cannot forgive an offense for a long time, but it does not work out in any way, try to describe your offense in detail on a piece of paper or express in your mind everything that you think to your offender. Write or mentally say everything that hurts. Burn the leaflet with "grievances". It should feel a little better.
Step 5
Write on the sheet “I forgive someone for:…” and describe in detail what you forgive. Make an airplane out of this sheet and launch it, for example, from the balcony.
Step 6
Take a pillow, imagine that this is your abuser, and blow it well. Hit until it gets easier.
