There are people who are victorious, and there are people who are defeated. Both those and others suffered defeat in life. Only the first survived them, and the second did not. However, it is never too late to start your movement towards victories. And the ability to lose is essential on the path to success.
Instructions
Step 1
Admit mistakes right away. People often defend their position out of stubbornness. They have already realized that they are wrong, but, nevertheless, they continue to give various arguments in their defense. The problem is that sooner or later, defeat will still have to be admitted, while you can present yourself as a not very reasonable person trying to justify a knowingly wrong point of view.
Admitting your mistake, on the contrary, will show your opponent that you are smart. In addition, you will save your and others' time.
Step 2
Speak the truth. It is not worth saying that you are a professional in any field of activity if you are not. If you enter into a dispute, immediately indicate your competence. In this case, no one will "crush" you with arguments and call you a "layman." Moreover, they will treat you with understanding and explain things you do not understand.
If you are not sure about something, then do not hesitate to talk about it ("Of course, I'm not sure, but it seems to me …")
Step 3
Analyze the reasons for your losses. Errors arise either out of ignorance (but it is difficult to call them a loss), or as a result of the victory of feelings over reason. A person is possessed by anger, resentment or irritation, he loses the ability to reason logically and ultimately suffers defeat. Therefore, postpone "until later" reflections on what should have been said in this or that dispute. You were in a different emotional state and, most likely, you could not soberly assess the situation. It is better to remember the moment when you lost control of yourself and became a victim of your own passions.
Step 4
Find your weakness. If you feel bad about losing, think about why. You will surely find some fad of yours. It is he who is the root cause of your resentment. "Savor" it. Try to offend yourself, do it as aggressively as possible. You will see that everything is not so scary. And the next time someone touches your weakness, you will react less painfully.
Step 5
Consider the worst possible situation. Tell yourself what happens if your theory turns out to be wrong? What troubles await you? Is there a way out of them? Develop a plan for failure.
Just do not consider the situation of failure in too much detail, otherwise set yourself up for it.
Step 6
Refuse to go personal. Prove your point of view, and do not scoff at the interlocutor. Better to consider it as a source of information.
