The situation of defeat is far from pleasant, especially when it comes to real life, and not losing in a board game. Not everyone can handle the wave of negative emotions. However, some people "move away" rather quickly, others need a long enough time to let go of an unpleasant situation. Learning to play with dignity means acquiring the ability to enjoy today without looking back at the mistakes of the past.
The ability to admit defeat, like the ability to forgive, has tremendous benefits for our mental health. From how a person relates to failure, one can understand whether he is an optimist or a pessimist. An optimist will smile in any situation, since he will be able not only to see the advantages, but also to benefit.
What is losing
The most successful "king of defeat" can be called Henry Ford. He is now known as a millionaire, the inventor of the conveyor belt and the founder of the Ford Motor Company, but before becoming a great American businessman, he suffered more than one defeat - bankruptcy. Those who want to learn how to lose with dignity should be equal to him. The main thing to understand is that defeat has its advantages. As Henry Ford says, "Failure is just an opportunity to start again and smarter." It is necessary to analyze your mistakes, which attracted you to defeat, and learn from this invaluable experience.
Having learned to lose with dignity, can forget the taste of victory
The ability to lose with dignity has a downside, behind which a person becomes passive and indifferent to victory. If Henry Ford at one time did not find the strength to cope with another bankruptcy, so desperate to win, the world would never have known such a wonderful brand of cars as Ford. The assembly line system could have been invented many years later, as could the ability of the middle class to purchase affordable cars. Therefore, in no case can you put up with defeat. Losing situations must be treated calmly and wisely. As you learn from your failures, use the lessons learned to help you achieve your goals.
How to teach a child to lose with dignity
It is impossible to teach a child what you yourself do not know how. After looking at the child's behavior, you will see a small copy of your reflection. The psychology of children is designed in such a way that they involuntarily copy their parents. A little later, the child's individual, own behavior will be added to the habit of getting upset about losing, copied from you. However, the foundation will still be what you have invested and demonstrated.
The best way to learn is through play. Spending joint evenings with board games, you can show your child the correct reactions to certain events. It is not worth explaining, it is necessary to show it. Lost, wonder out loud what you did wrong. Ask to recoup with the words "now I know how to win." Develop a strategy: "failure - search for reasons - try again."
