The psychology of relations between two loving people is such that to revive feelings it will never be superfluous to add a zest, add pepper. It can be a joint club adventure, a restaurant vacation or an undertaken renovation, rafting on a stormy river or a hike in the mountains … The main thing is the time spent together. By filling the magic box with precious minutes spent together, you thereby extend the life of your happy marriage.
Your answer to Chamberlain
When starting a conversation with your husband, try to focus on personal plural pronouns: say "we" instead of "I", or "our" instead of "mine." After all, marriage is a union, a tandem of two self-sufficient individuals who, by completely inexplicable magic, are attracted to each other. It should be clear to your husband that you are playing on the same team with him and that you are not positioning yourself apart. In every conversation, try to listen to his point of view, respecting his right to be a man, the main leader in your union.
When it comes to something piquant, which is difficult for both of you to talk about, for example, during a truce after a quarrel, take the initiative, do not expect the betrothed to make concessions himself. If your husband asked you a question and thereby confused you, do not get lost. An honest and open answer is always better.
Trust, don't check
One of the important factors in the disorder of marital relations is the obsession and suspicion of one of the spouses. If a woman is jealous, constantly checks her phone and mail, reads text messages and messages on her husband's social networks, this will not cause anything except his irritation (and often anger). It’s not even worth repeating how unclean this behavior is. So - no jealousy.
On the contrary - absolute trust! If your husband wants to spend the evening alone or with friends, answer with consent. This will deprive yourself and your spouse of unnecessary stress.
It happens that some detail may come up that will make you nervous: lipstick on your shirt, someone else's perfume, a casually thrown phrase about a new employee. Do not rush to create a scandal. Try to calmly, without unnecessary hysteria, find out everything that interests you, but even here try not to dig too deep. Give your spouse more air, more freedom, and you will find that you can really trust him.
Bonnie and Clyde
There are many popular love stories: Tarzan and Jane, Bonnie and Clyde, Master and Margarita … All these couples are distinguished by unity and a common idea. For modern Tarzan and Jane or Bonnie and Clyde, it is also important to believe in something in common. By uniting for something, you can be sure that the fire of your mutual interest will flare up with renewed vigor. Cooperation is one of the main conditions for a long and lasting family life. Of course, robbing banks together is not worth it. It is enough to diversify the routine with something new.
Try to share your husband's interests, whether it's kitesurfing or billiards. Or do something together. Even joint fitness sessions will give the desired positive results. You can choose something more interesting. Shared safari in Kenya, for example.
Wear sexy lingerie and after 30 years of marriage, flirt, flirt - do everything that you once did - when everything was just beginning. After all, the most dangerous thing is to “get up at the conveyor belt”. You can get bogged down like in a swamp: work-home-work, boring family celebrations … And interest in each other will quickly fade away. The fire of your relationship directly depends on the efforts - both yours and your spouse.
And, of course, do not forget about the little joys for two: breakfast in bed, romantic text messages during working hours. Travel, explore the world together, because you have each other, and this is the most important thing!
