Why is it so bad to be boring? Boring people are never happy. Everything that happens around is either wrong or bad. It is much more difficult to communicate with a bore than with a pessimist, because he is already used to complaining about everything and everyone.
This habit leads to the fact that not only acquaintances, but also close people begin to avoid a boring person, preferring to refer to urgent matters. This does not necessarily mean that everyone who accidentally complains about life automatically becomes a bore. Bad moods or dissatisfaction can come to anyone from time to time, but with nerds it is constant. For them, their whole life is a chain of unresolved problems, difficulties, troubles and tasks that they cannot afford. Even in absolutely positive things, they will surely find some flaws and will savor them for hours.
Boring and dull people try to find meaning and logic in any joke or anecdote, they lack imagination and imagination, they constantly grumble and show dissatisfaction on any occasion. Such people do not notice the moment when their interlocutors get tired or want to change the topic of conversation. Moreover, it is almost impossible to get rid of their company.
What can you do to avoid being boring?
1. Never try to tell others about all your problems.
2. If you see that the other person is not interested in keeping up the conversation, do not try to hold his attention. Even if you start switching from one topic to another, it won't make you interesting in his eyes. On the contrary, you run the risk of annoying him even more.
3. Don't go into every detail. It is not worth describing something in full detail, especially if it is not interesting to anyone.
4. Try to take the information you hear with a touch of humor.
5. Do not interrupt the interlocutor. In case you did not understand or did not hear something, there is no need to interrupt the speaker every time and demand that he repeat it again.
6. Don't give people any advice unless they ask you to. Do not judge the customs of the community or the locality in which you find yourself. Try to understand and accept the rules of the society in which you are.
8. Smile more often. Smiling can help you look like a nicer person. She will show others that you are optimistic about life and want to make friends with everyone around you.
9. Don't be afraid to voice your opinion. When someone disagrees with you, say, "You have a great opinion, but I see things this way …" If you accept all views and are not afraid to voice your own, you will soon gain respect.
10. Chat with different people. Make new friends and acquaintances.
11. Be kinder to the people around you, listen carefully to their stories to help with advice or participation. A person who not only speaks but also listens to the interlocutor will never seem boring.
12. Be natural. Don't be afraid to look weird or out of place.
13. Develop skills and knowledge in subjects of interest. Ask about unknown topics, broaden your horizons, stay on top of developments in politics and society.
14. Boring people are usually those who are too focused on work. Start doing other things as well - doing sports or traveling more. Traveling expands our worldview and provides an opportunity to collect interesting stories that can be told to others.
15. Work on your sense of humor and joke more often.
16. Above all, try to be your own best friend. Focus on your best personality traits. Determine what things you are good at, what few people are as good at as you are. If you treat yourself with respect, others will treat you the same way. In addition, they will see the best in you, what you value most in your personality.
