Manipulative people are very common. And those who depend on them suffer greatly from this attitude towards themselves. Moreover, a person can be manipulated both at work and in his own family. Psychologists have developed a number of recommendations on how not to be bullied.
Instructions
Step 1
If someone tries to manipulate you through compliments, be very careful. It is so easy to relax from pleasant words, to lose vigilance and once again agree to what is unpleasant and unacceptable for you. Therefore, when you hear flattering words, try not to blush or be embarrassed. Just take the praise with dignity. After all, you value yourself! You can consolidate the result by answering your opponent with the same pleasant words. So he will understand that not too sincere compliments from you will not achieve anything.
Step 2
In the case when you are faced with a choice, covering the main request with a preliminary story, do not rush to immediately give an answer. Manipulators love to press on pity, so you run the risk of impulsively agreeing to something that is uncomfortable for you. Feel free to ask for some time to think. Left alone, carefully consider what is asked of you, weigh your capabilities and desires. And then make a decision whether you will help or not. Do not be afraid to refuse if it is inconvenient for you.
Step 3
When a manipulator tries to "crush" you with his intellect: he shows that he is more educated, wiser and more intelligent than you - do not get fooled. Often, under such a feigned intellect, there is a rather "empty" person who does not have special knowledge, but uses only a certain set of blanks. Answer him in kind. Learn several important dates, historical figures, and events. In a conversation with this type of manipulator, apply your knowledge. He, not expecting such a rebuff from you, will be confused and will stop his attempts to manipulate you.
Step 4
If you are being treated with increasing aggression, do not give in. Psychologists recommend not to calm down an angry opponent. Only a complete ignore. And the attempt at manipulation will end as quickly as it began. This is due to the fact that since there is no reaction, then there is no point in scattering.
Step 5
In this case, you can go the other way around. Be sure to touch the raging interlocutor with your hand, touch him on the shoulder or hand. At the same time, you yourself begin to build up an aggressive tone and manner of communication in relation to the interlocutor. Suddenly, the attempt to manipulate you will immediately stop.
Step 6
Sometimes manipulation is hidden behind too fast speech rate and talkativeness. In this case, do not try to stop the flow of words that is pouring on you. Just say only one phrase: "Sorry (-s), I need to call urgently." And turn away to the phone. This pause will help your interlocutor to lose pace and lose the advantage over you. Plus, you still have the opportunity to figure out how to end the conversation.
