Shyness in everyday life sometimes makes a person very nice, but it can also greatly interfere in business and work relationships. Shy and shy people, these character traits prevent them from insisting on their own, abandoning the imposed, defending themselves, or even showing their business acumen and ingenuity. Those who are victims of their own shyness need to learn to overcome it.
Instructions
Step 1
Analyze the reasons for your behavior - maybe in childhood you were constantly pulled back and criticized all your statements. On the one hand, it taught you to say only thoughtful things, but on the other hand, you are embarrassed to communicate and cannot freely and calmly express your point of view. Now remember that you are no longer a child and no one has the right to reprimand you. Instill in yourself the idea that your opinion is as valuable as the opinion of everyone else and that it is expected of you by asking questions and inviting you to take part in the conversation.
Step 2
Start practical exercises to eliminate unnecessary shyness in yourself. Learn to be the first to make contact with strangers. Start small - on the way to work or from work, address passers-by with the question: "What time is it?" or ask them how you can best get to a place in your city. Use the second option to ask additional, clarifying questions. Try to strike up a conversation and do not be discouraged if your interlocutor quickly turns it off - it means that he simply has no time. Continue your workout every day, and after a week you will have no problems with active conversation with passers-by.
Step 3
If you're invited to an unfamiliar company, use this opportunity to root out shyness. Read the latest news, view reviews of new films and performances. Try to enter into a conversation with strangers who see you for the first time, with the words: "Do you know what …?" or "I learned today that …". When you do this a few times, you will find that it is not that difficult to strike up a conversation and be in the center of it.
Step 4
To be confident in your words, and, therefore, not to feel shy and awkward in a conversation, read a lot, learn about everything new and interesting, what is happening around and what can become the subject of conversation. It will also help you to defend your point of view and disagree with particularly persistent people, just not to argue with them.
Step 5
Learn to argue and say "No" when you don't want something. You should understand that many are trying to use your shyness to get their way. Having got rid of it, you can only observe your own interests and do as you see fit.
