The need to persuade the interlocutors to their side appears every now and then: in everyday conflicts, family disagreements and in business negotiations. For this ancient art, they even coined the fashionable term NLP. Its true masters may have never heard the words "neuro-linguistic programming", but they intuitively use the techniques that businessmen and politicians learn in expensive seminars.
Instructions
Step 1
Be attentive to your interlocutor. Try to understand his point of view on issues that are important to you and his personal inclinations. Talk about things that interest him. If you are not familiar with this topic, ask questions that will show that you are also interested in the conversation. If you get bored, but you need to keep the interlocutor, try to catch on to some phrase, after which you can turn off the conversation to an important topic for you.
Step 2
If you were friendly and considerate from the beginning, you can hope for a favorable course of the conversation. Continue talking as if you were asking for advice from a wiser, more experienced person. A subtle compliment will help you win his sympathy, for example: “Hey, sidekick, and you are a clear kid” or: “You don’t need to explain what consequences an ill-considered solution to such a complex issue can have”.
Step 3
After the interlocutor is convinced of your unconditional respect and recognition of his authority, try to carefully and unobtrusively inspire him with your point of view. Let him think that this is his own idea. If the other person is smart and perceptive enough, just ask him what he thinks about this scenario. At the same time, list those advantages that are obvious to you - but softly and unobtrusively, especially if you see that the person is initially a supporter of another option.
Step 4
If an argument arises, do not try to shout down the interlocutor, try to remain polite and friendly. If the dispute is not of vital importance, and you see that it will not be possible to convince your opponent, it is better to end the discussion with words like: "Time will tell …" or "Wait and see." If you need to convince the other person that you are right, start looking for common ground - something with which you both agree. Emphasize often that you have a lot in common. Then, if you don't agree right away, your opponent will be kind to you, and it may be possible to reach a compromise later.
Step 5
Dale Carnegie gave great advice: "If you go fishing, then take with you not the raspberry jam that you like, but the worm that the fish like." Try to convince the interlocutor that cooperation with you will be convenient and profitable for him.
