How to win over a person when talking? How can you make communication easy and enjoyable? For this, there are a number of methods that are very easy to implement. At the same time, they can really help to establish contact with the interlocutor and establish the necessary friendly - or even not only - connections.
During communication, show not only attention to your interlocutor. Try to show interest in the contact in the current conversation. However, if your relationship is not yet that close, try not to violate your personal space, do not be too intrusive and remember about tact. During a conversation, you should not interrupt your opponent, force him to jump from topic to topic, or in any way to perceive the incoming information with hostility. This can not only ruin the mood, but also destroy the established connection with the interlocutor.
If you want to dispose a new (or not so) person to yourself, during communication try to copy his posture, repeat his gestures and facial expressions. Only this should be done not pretendingly, as if unobtrusively. So that such actions on your part do not attract the attention of another person, but are perceived by him on a subconscious level. Watch various video interviews, watching how the host of the program behaves and the person with whom the dialogue is taking place. As a rule, the interviewer unobtrusively now and then copies - at least approximately - the pose of his guest, adopts some movements and habits from him. This, on an unconscious level, disposes the interlocutor to a frank and friendly conversation.
Mood is an important moment when you want to establish communication with another person. An open smile, an attentive, but not intent, gaze create a favorable environment during contact. By the way, you should always remember about the look. He doesn't have to be focused or overly focused. You should not try to constantly look into the eyes of your interlocutor, especially if the person tries to avoid eye contact, for example, because of a feeling of awkwardness, because of shyness / embarrassment. The transition to informal communication will help maintain an excellent mood in the process of dialogue.
In an effort to endear a person to yourself, to have friendly - or not only - relationships with him, you should not close in any way during contact. Crossed arms or legs, a frowning expression, monosyllabic responses, display of excitement and nervousness can all push the person away from you.
In some cases, you can use a simple technique that psychologists often resort to. During the conversation, try to ask clarifying, but not intrusive, questions. Starting to answer something to your interlocutor, as if by chance repeat what he said at the end of his monologue. It is not necessary to repeat verbatim, you can use only individual expressions, some special phrases, or just keep the meaning of the words spoken. Such an approach on a subconscious level makes it clear to the other person that you are interested in communicating with him, that you are listening to him carefully and are ready to continue an active, pleasant conversation.
Compliments and light signs of attention are what can help to establish contact with the right person. However, strive to ensure that this is sincere, not feigned. And, of course, you should not make completely frank or inappropriate compliments, which, on the contrary, may discourage a person from you. Praise, expressions of approval, support, and encouragement can also have a positive effect on building communication with the person you want.
