Along with the death penalty, isolation in solitary confinement is considered one of the harshest punishments. It is even worse when a free person for some reason cannot build relationships with other people. Regardless of what goals the individual pursues, they are easy enough to achieve if you follow a few simple rules.
Each of us has once dealt with people who literally draw attention to themselves and seem extremely convincing and lucky. Undoubtedly, someone has such abilities from birth, but you should not be envious - if you try a little, you can develop all these qualities in yourself.
The importance of first impressions
It takes only 40 seconds for a person to form a first impression. Regardless of whether the first impression was wrong or turned out to be correct, it is imprinted in the subconscious for a long time and practically does not lend itself to change. Therefore, even getting up on the wrong foot, you should make an effort over yourself and try to look friendly at least in the first minutes of acquaintance. Talking about appearance is not at all worth it, the fact that they are "met by their clothes" has long been known to everyone and even managed to become boring.
Speech construction and manner of speaking
Most importantly, a deep impression of a person is formed solely by how he speaks, how competently and clearly he expresses his thoughts. Therefore, in order to improve your style of speech, you should mainly communicate with people who have a well-developed speaking skill. It is even helpful to just listen to them and learn. It is important to read books, at least 10 pages daily. Better yet, do it out loud.
Demeanor in society
Be sure of what you are doing or saying, or at least pretend. Do not take closed poses, work on facial expressions and gestures.
It has long been known that the most important principles of good communication are:
- Be positive, nobody likes losers and whiners. Everyone intuitively gravitates towards successful and happy people, because they themselves want to be.
- Show the interlocutor your interest and not be afraid to ask questions.
- Find similarities between yourself and the interlocutor.
If you follow all these simple principles and improve your communication skills, you will soon notice that the eyes of the interlocutors burn with sparks of interest and attention.
