“Happiness is near,” say the optimists. Pessimists prefer to look for it across the seven seas. Or wait for years, polishing and inventing an image of an ideal future. If you really want to be happy, you need to learn to allow yourself to be happy. And then, to achieve happiness, you will not have to make titanic efforts.
Instructions
Step 1
Look for happiness in the present. Think about what exactly you are happy about right now. Don't dwell on the past or expect happiness in the future. If you convince yourself that the best days are behind you, you will not notice the lucky signs of fate. And if you persuade yourself that happiness will come to you with a new husband, a new dress, or a newly built house, you will miss several years of your already happy life.
Step 2
Learn to relax. Feeling unhappy is often associated with excessive tension. Don't wait for funds for an expensive resort or miraculous spa treatments. These are just auxiliary relaxation methods. And the ability to rest and completely relax must be cultivated and developed in oneself so that it can be used in any circumstances.
Step 3
Dream, but separate dreams from reality. Allow yourself to imagine the fabulous motives for the development of your destiny. Get the unspeakable pleasure of imagined success. And then try to assess sensibly, which of your plans you can already realize in your life. Often, even the most incredible dreams are quite achievable. At the same time, learn to adapt your dreams to reality. You want a Ferrari, but you only have money for a Peugeot? Buy an inexpensive sports car. It is more adapted to Russian roads and less demanding on expensive maintenance.
Step 4
Allow yourself to be successful and happy. "I'm not good enough for this handsome man." "I will not pull this posh post." Thoughts of this kind should not be present in your head. Allow yourself a handsome man and a good job, and they themselves will find you. Yes, and you will be ready to accept the gifts that fate presents to you. And even more so, you should not give up something good, thinking that you do not deserve it. Life does not give people that they are not worthy. Be supportive of the gifts of fate.
