Grumpiness can destroy the warmest relationships and turn a once loved one into an unpleasant type from whom you want to stay away. Even if the brawler is right on the merits, the form in which he makes a claim often precludes empathy for him.
Instructions
Step 1
Try to find the reason for your grumpiness. Perhaps you do not get enough sleep all the time, you are very tired at work and at home. Then you have every reason to be dissatisfied with colleagues and family, but you are unable to explain clearly and convincingly the reasons for your dissatisfaction.
Step 2
Write down on paper what you dislike and what you would like to change. Think carefully about your speech - it is very important that there are no offenses or other irritants in it, because of which your listeners may feel dislike for you even before you finish speaking.
Step 3
Encourage colleagues or family members to share responsibilities more fairly and listen carefully to their concerns. Perhaps you have overlooked some circumstances, and your loved ones also have reasons to be unhappy. Be prepared to compromise for your peace of mind and peace around you.
Step 4
If a compromise cannot be reached through no fault of yours, simply relieve yourself of some of the responsibilities unilaterally. At work, this is not always possible, but at home you have the right to refuse the role of free servant for everything. Most likely, the rest of the family will simply have to take care of themselves on their own - of course, this does not apply to young children and helpless patients.
Step 5
Sometimes health problems are the cause of grumpiness. Get a general checkup with your doctor just in case, especially if you often feel unwell. Rigid diets can cause a breakdown, constant internal discontent and, as a result, grumpiness. Ask your loved ones: perhaps they find it much more pleasant to live next to a cheerful, cheerful plump than with a picky boring anorexic.
Step 6
If you understand that the reason for being grumpy is simply your lack of restraint and inability to reckon with other people, ask someone close to film you during the scandal and watch this video if you feel that you are overwhelmed by an attack of irritability. It is quite possible that this will play the role of shock therapy: few people imagine how unattractive he can be during fights.
Step 7
Think carefully about your arguments when you want to explain to others that they are wrong. If the fight develops spontaneously, count to 10 before answering someone. Try to attract your sense of humor to help: a remark made in a joking manner (not mockery, not sarcasm, but a kind joke) can work much better than an irritated tirade.
