Experiencing is inherent in a person even, it would seem, the most indifferent and cold-blooded. People worry about their loved ones, they are upset because of injustices and failures. This is understandable and natural. But there are people in whom this quality takes on clearly excessive forms. For example, they are very worried about their children, they control their every step, even if they have grown up a long time ago, have become parents themselves. At the sight of an old beggar woman begging for alms or a stray dog, they are ready to burst into tears, fall into a real depression. Such excessive experience is harmful, makes it difficult to communicate with household members, colleagues.
Instructions
Step 1
Excessive experience is mainly inherent in impressionable people with a heightened sense of responsibility. They treat themselves with increased exactingness and therefore expect the same from others. They find it unbearable to see injustice, cruelty, indifference, they are tormented by a sense of guilt for the fact that they live relatively well when there is so much grief around. Therefore, they worry themselves and make others nervous.
Step 2
Everything needs a middle ground. Try to convince yourself with the argument: no one person can be responsible for all the sins of the world. You are not able to help all the old people in need, feed all the hungry children, give shelter to all the homeless animals. Even the noblest deed should not be turned into an obsession.
Step 3
Concern for children is the most understandable, natural thing. Any normal parent instinctively seeks to protect the child from danger, to help, to give the necessary advice. But again, everything is good in moderation. Try to understand: an adult son or daughter should not be treated like a young fool. It is unlikely that you want it to become painful for them to communicate with you.
Step 4
Reassure yourself with this argument: your grown-up children are smart, reasonable people, they are not enemies either to themselves or to your grandchildren. They themselves will figure out that they need to eat right, dress for the season, closely monitor the children, take care of their health and avoid unnecessary risks. Otherwise, it turns out that you have brought up rare fools.
Step 5
Use self-hypnosis. Repeat to yourself as often as possible: "Because I'm nervous, I can't find a place for myself, I twitch myself and twitch those around me, it just gets worse for me." And indeed it is.
Step 6
It doesn't hurt to see a qualified endocrinologist to have your thyroid checked. The fact is that such excessive anxiety, experience can be caused by a violation of the level of hormones. Go for the examination, pass all the necessary tests. If necessary, you will be prescribed a course of treatment.
