Communication skills are the foundation on which your relationships with other people are built. There are things that people do unconsciously, not realizing how much they harm their own reputation and success in business. There are a few rules that can help you interact with others. While they may seem obvious, not everyone follows them.
Rule one. Leave the grudges
Forgiving is very important. Often people keep grudges in their souls for many years. They accumulate them, covering them with a mask of indifference and pretending to smile. Getting rid of grievances is important, first of all, for yourself. Negative emotions, if experienced for a very long time, slightly change the algorithm for the functioning of the brain. If you do as many push-ups as you can every morning, your results will steadily improve every day. So it is with grudges. Paying attention to them, you spend your mental and emotional resources on them, and your mind gets used to thinking in a negative way.
The second rule. Others don't have to understand you
All people are different, and often someone does not share your point of view on an important issue. Try to keep it simple. First, it's not a fact that you are the one who is right. Secondly, there are situations in which there can be no absolutely correct opinion. Be tolerant of other people's beliefs and opinions.
Rule three. Do good selflessly
If you take on helping someone or want to make someone happy, do not expect the person to do the same for you in return. What you are doing is necessary, first of all, for yourself. Even if you are asked for help, then provide it without expecting anything in return. Otherwise, it is not good and not help, but already a deal or exchange. Without expecting anything in return for your good deeds, you will not be disappointed.
Rule four. Do not judge
You can only judge someone "from your belfry." You will never fully understand how the other person feels, why he does so. Even if you think that someone is fundamentally wrong, do not waste your energy on wasting words, criticizing him. In addition, a person who is openly criticized will first begin to defend himself. Your words will not reach his ears, he will only understand that he is being attacked and will begin to defend himself.
The fifth rule. It's pointless to argue
Arguing is a waste of time, since no one can ever prove anything to anyone. People sometimes become so infuriated that it comes to becoming personal, while the understanding of the subject of the dispute does not change in anyone's head.
Rule six. Do not impose help or advice
Let people build their own lives. Trust me, they know what they are doing. Despite the call to learn from other people's mistakes, most people still prefer to make their own. Unsolicited advice can only make things worse. In addition, any imposed display of love and care is in reality an aggressive attempt at control.
The seventh rule. Let others be you
All different. Don't try to remake someone who is near you. Be grateful that such wonderful people are around you. If you are unhappy with your environment, change it, find a new one, but don't try to change people. It still won't work.
